tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post114980838737746419..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: At BayHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-82182139438970571422014-03-20T00:12:54.751-07:002014-03-20T00:12:54.751-07:00The guy my girlfriend left me for dumped her for s...The guy my girlfriend left me for dumped her for someone he works with after casting the win ex back spell which my friend introduce me to! the win ex back spell works fast! Of course she called me and pleaded for my forgiveness and now she always want to be with me,she is always attached to me now trusting everything i say to her. I love knowing I had everything to do with this winexbackspell@buttynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149944751195406692006-06-10T06:05:00.000-07:002006-06-10T06:05:00.000-07:00First up, you are not crazy. Second, the fact tha...First up, you are not crazy. Second, the fact that you recognize this issue means you are doing something about it and not giving up. My sister is morbidly obese and she has done neither of those points because she is in denial and thinks she has no support (I try but that's a post I'm struggling through myself). My sister got nothing but grief from family and friends and now she has shut-downmotherbumperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053978199395919666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149912423663587552006-06-09T21:07:00.000-07:002006-06-09T21:07:00.000-07:00I almost posted anonymously, so as to not attract ...I almost posted anonymously, so as to not attract attention to anything but what I want to say to you, sweet girl. but then I was like, shit. I want you to know that a) I think you're an amazing woman, b) I totally recognize your struggle and support you in it, and c) I want you to know it's *me* saying those things.<BR/><BR/>I won't say I think you're silly for worrying that readers of this Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14163363926316904033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149885942354948252006-06-09T13:45:00.000-07:002006-06-09T13:45:00.000-07:00Amber said it best. We are not our bodies. I know...Amber said it best. We are not our bodies. <BR/><BR/>I know what you're going through, but I'm at a different stage. After many, many years of starving and binging and purging, I finally stopped. It had a lot to do with getting other parts of my life in order and having a strong support system in place. I realized that being a size X (<--fill in so-called desirable size here) would not make Jezerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342441899854569351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149882012268451162006-06-09T12:40:00.000-07:002006-06-09T12:40:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing this. I am learning so much...Thank you for sharing this. I am learning so much from your post and the comments.Miguelitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10134489935342720776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149878970085647452006-06-09T11:49:00.000-07:002006-06-09T11:49:00.000-07:00I am praying for you. I hope you don't mind. I h...I am praying for you. I hope you don't mind. I have had trouble with eating disorders myself. Anonymous, you have to heal on the inside before weight can mean as little as it really means. I had to learn to find my beauty, my worth, my confidence in something more substantial than the eyes of the people around me. Or even the thoughts I imagined they had about me. Once I healed inside from Sharon L. Hollandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06387774344892567897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149878096314547782006-06-09T11:34:00.000-07:002006-06-09T11:34:00.000-07:00I can't say anything with more wisdom, or that mig...I can't say anything with more wisdom, or that might help mor ethan the Anno post above... But I feel for you. I have had an unhealthy relationship with food in my life, as well. At one point I was 5'9, and 109 pounds! Then after kids, my body just held on to everything, probably thnking it was going to starve! I never knew what it felt like to be over-weight, an dthen I learned how hard it is. Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04680903854519503303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149871048909101592006-06-09T09:37:00.000-07:002006-06-09T09:37:00.000-07:00Oh please please please don't do it. Can I just s...Oh please please please don't do it. Can I just say that I have been reading/lurking on blogs for a long time now and I've never posted on a one, but this I've gotta respond to. I spent 10 whole years of my life with bulimia. God, how did 10 years happen?! And I understand completely how it starts and continues and continues and continues...but what I realize now that I've finally overcome Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149869188422692892006-06-09T09:06:00.000-07:002006-06-09T09:06:00.000-07:00You haven't failed.Just because you haven't lost t...<I>You haven't failed.</I><BR/><BR/>Just because you haven't lost the weight you wanted to yet does not mean you have failed. Even the fact that you haven't been able to find time to exercise lately doesn't mean you have failed. <BR/><BR/>Failure means you had one shot to succeed at something, and you choked.<BR/><BR/>But striving for good health and fitness is a lifelong commitment, not a Jaelithehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12081888212421953409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149865001383746302006-06-09T07:56:00.000-07:002006-06-09T07:56:00.000-07:00I hope the post helped you get the feeling out in ...I hope the post helped you get the feeling out in the open. I hope you can reread it after writing it, and it can heal you. <BR/><BR/>I've had the same urges.<BR/><BR/>I don't have any advice. Except that I ended up going to weight watchers. And I didn't do it online, I went to meetings! And they helped. And I lost weight. And once I lost a little I felt better about myself that I could do Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149864479284085642006-06-09T07:47:00.000-07:002006-06-09T07:47:00.000-07:00My hatred of vomiting has been the only obstacle b...My hatred of vomiting has been the only obstacle between me and the binge/purge temptation at times. I know the feeling of having eaten far too much, having let my pleasure in consuming get out of control, and wondering...what if?<BR/><BR/>I agree that you sound as if you have the obsession with food that is characteristic of eating disorders, and I second (third? fourth? I've lost count.) theAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149863754555937582006-06-09T07:35:00.000-07:002006-06-09T07:35:00.000-07:00How horrible to have your head saying things you d...How horrible to have your head saying things you don't want it to - but how excellent that you have the strength to hear it and tell it to fuck off. That is important, that will to stay sane and healthy. It means you have the strength to fight and get help. I think that first commenter has a good tip on therapy and/or support groups. I know these help a lot of people who want to feel better. I kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149863521751793212006-06-09T07:32:00.000-07:002006-06-09T07:32:00.000-07:00as someone who has been there (and promptly got pr...as someone who has been there (and promptly got pregnant with #2 as I was trying to lose weight from #1) I can really empathize with your story here. But here's a secret--ALL of us who have had kids and are in or pushing our 30s--all of us find losing weight incredibly, incredibly hard. I was exercising, "watching" what I ate, the lot--all with a few other friends doing the same thing. And allgingajoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01356643079413822527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149862948006690052006-06-09T07:22:00.000-07:002006-06-09T07:22:00.000-07:00Wow. That was brave to write. I wish I have the co...Wow. That was brave to write. I wish I have the courage to say all of that - anonymous or not. <BR/>I'm going through that too, right now. I'm trying really hard to lose weight. I gained about 80 pounds with my son - not because of him but because I felt it was the one time in my chubby life that I could eat whatever I wanted and be applauded for it. And I ate.<BR/>I just didn't stop eating.<BR/>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149861862464894682006-06-09T07:04:00.000-07:002006-06-09T07:04:00.000-07:00I feel as if your post has suddenly made everythin...I feel as if your post has suddenly made everything so much clearer. I've been trying to cut down my food intake for three months now, and initially I lost a pound a week, until I was down between 5 and 9 pounds (depending on how you count). And then the weight loss came to a complete halt. It seems like I'm eating essentially nothing, but the weight isn't going anywhere (and weaning did not Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149861524427976562006-06-09T06:58:00.000-07:002006-06-09T06:58:00.000-07:00I think it's brave of you to post this here, and I...I think it's brave of you to post this here, and I'm touched by your struggle. I think you should go back to counseling if you can afford it. <BR/><BR/>I'll be honest - in the past I've had eating disorder tendancies as well. But not since I met my husband. His mom suffered from bulimia. I use past tense because she died before she was 40. Her body couldn't take the abuse any longer and gave out.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07345875955750219033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149861347497651782006-06-09T06:55:00.000-07:002006-06-09T06:55:00.000-07:00First up, you are not crazy. And no one is going t...First up, you are not crazy. And no one is going to stop reading you because of this. This post just shows that you are human and have some issues like the rest of us. It doesn't make you any less appealing. <BR/>I suspect you will continue to feel the urge (struggles with weight are life-long for SO many of us) but will also continue to fight it off. You seem pretty in tune with yourself and Baby in the Cityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01167558214100594817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149861239147756492006-06-09T06:53:00.000-07:002006-06-09T06:53:00.000-07:00I really can relate to you. Having two kids in two...I really can relate to you. Having two kids in two years has really done a number on my body weight-wise. When I was pregnant with my first, I took the term "Eating for two" to a whole new level -- I gained about 50 pounds because I just didn't care. With my second, I resolved to be much more careful about what I ate, and I was, but I still gained about 25 pounds. Tack that on to the 50 I never mamatuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02692442843330582571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149850885973772622006-06-09T04:01:00.000-07:002006-06-09T04:01:00.000-07:00Oh- Am I supposed to comment annonymously too?Oh- Am I supposed to comment annonymously too?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149850838508822342006-06-09T04:00:00.000-07:002006-06-09T04:00:00.000-07:00If anyone writes a negative comment to you about t...If anyone writes a negative comment to you about this- lightning will strike them, and their hearts will turn to freaking ash. <BR/><BR/>You are brave to be reaching out for help in HBM's basement here, and I hope if you get any help from these comments, it makes you feel hopeful enough to get more help. <BR/><BR/>Because you don't have to suffer with these feelings. You deserve to feel good Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149849856207567372006-06-09T03:44:00.000-07:002006-06-09T03:44:00.000-07:00Please, please look into getting help now. It too...Please, please look into getting help now. It took years and many many health scares for me to recover from bulima, and I started just as innocently "I'll only do it when I have too many cookies" "I'll only do it one more time" and eventually it turned into a full fledged eating disorder. And I'll tell you what else, I never lost a pound by doing it. <BR/><BR/>Bulima in particular is more of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149832558075235552006-06-08T22:55:00.000-07:002006-06-08T22:55:00.000-07:00I'm leaving my identity in the open for this, sinc...I'm leaving my identity in the open for this, since I don't feel like I want to take the time to get anonymous when you are in need NOW.<BR/><BR/>What I want to say is YOU CAN. You CAN overcome, you CAN control. Do you know why? Because you're WORTH IT! And how do I know this? Because you are someone's dear friend, someone's daughter, maybe someone's mother...those people in your life make Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1149821570248766922006-06-08T19:52:00.000-07:002006-06-08T19:52:00.000-07:00Have you considered checking out an Overeaters Ano...Have you considered checking out an Overeaters Anonymous meeting in your area? My sister in law is a compulsive overeater and she found great support through this group. <BR/><BR/>If you can afford to, I hope you'll go back to therapy. The more you talk about this with others, the less secret and scary it will be.<BR/><BR/>I've had that urge after too many cookies and not enough exercise. Annie, The Evil Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16585283486191306521noreply@blogger.com