tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post117043336175940899..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: Where Do I Go From Here?Her Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-22413771653660638242007-02-17T19:43:00.000-08:002007-02-17T19:43:00.000-08:00I don't think you sound like a snob, I think you s...I don't think you sound like a snob, I think you sound discerning - something none of us can afford NOT to be. If you have these doubts about "long-term," TRUST YOUR INSTINCT. Keep writing in the basement if you face criticism for your choices. It's uncouth to say that financial differences make a difference, but THEY DO, to some (myself included.) Frankly, I never realized that I expected and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1171392313508710862007-02-13T10:45:00.000-08:002007-02-13T10:45:00.000-08:00Keep it casual. My mother once gave me these word...Keep it casual. My mother once gave me these words, and I have held them close ever since:<BR/><BR/>"If you cannot say 'Yes' with your whole heart, do not say 'yes' at all."<BR/><BR/>This doesn't mean 'run screaming from anything that doesn't make you leap with joy,' just that, if you have reservations, keep it simple and easy. There is always time. Don't feel you have to rush.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1170557868961528602007-02-03T18:57:00.000-08:002007-02-03T18:57:00.000-08:00What anonymous #1 said - REALLY try to work out wh...What anonymous #1 said - REALLY try to work out what's worth staying for, and what really invites abandoning. All relationships have their imperfections. The key is to know what imperfections you can live with - if you can't live with these, well, then, there's your answer.<BR/><BR/>I know that it's not that easy. Best of luck to you. Will you update us on what you decide to do, whenever that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1170556539509075742007-02-03T18:35:00.000-08:002007-02-03T18:35:00.000-08:00I feel the precise way that you do. And the only r...I feel the precise way that you do. And the only reason I comment anonymously is because my soon to be ex-bastard of a husband still enjoys stalking me all over blogspot. One false move, er..bloggy comment, and he's being even harder to divorce. <BR/><BR/>But here's the thing: I'm sick of being quasi divorced. I'm sick of still being legally married and not able to even get the thrill of heart Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1170503133217702232007-02-03T03:45:00.000-08:002007-02-03T03:45:00.000-08:00There's also such a thing as OVER analyzing. I und...There's also such a thing as OVER analyzing. I understand the need for things to fit into nice neat packages... but sometimes it's fun to be messy too.<BR/><BR/>Like the previous post, you need to figure out the differences, and how imporant they are. It's like picking your battles with a toddler. What's REALLY important? What's a deal-breaker, and what's liveable?<BR/><BR/>All relationships haveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1170442434977691802007-02-02T10:53:00.000-08:002007-02-02T10:53:00.000-08:00There are differences and then there are differenc...There are differences and then there are differences.<BR/><BR/>If you have a strong need for freedom and variety, and he has a strong need for stability, that's a problematic difference.<BR/><BR/>If you are happiest when you are socializing constantly with large groups of people, and he likes to spend all his time alone, that may be negotiable, but it'll make things hard.<BR/><BR/>Other kinds of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com