tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post1177979183474195055..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: A Letter To MeHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-3458406035059839962012-08-04T06:25:03.593-07:002012-08-04T06:25:03.593-07:00Hey not for nothing - but THANK -YOU! I am 50 . My...Hey not for nothing - but THANK -YOU! I am 50 . My story is so much like yours .. And I can see where I am on my journey. I'm Not alone..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-24296777492431808042012-08-04T06:17:33.293-07:002012-08-04T06:17:33.293-07:00I here you sister!! Xox! Stay away from them - the...I here you sister!! Xox! Stay away from them - they are toxic , they will only bring you down .. Love who love you and care enough to be by your side .. You matter! Protect your family - you have been blessed with the knowledge and support you need to break the cycle of abuse ..the journey is rough at times .. Stay away from them .. You deserve that beautiful life you created and you need to be aAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-42282412684496564152010-08-02T23:07:18.381-07:002010-08-02T23:07:18.381-07:00It is really sad that those types of mothers exist...It is really sad that those types of mothers exist. I think that the lie that society forces us to achknowlede as exceptable behavior ie, "mothers love their", make it very difficult to gain freedom. When I see moms face, I get excited until she opens her mouth and I remember...I don't and have never had a mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-36053686879185483392010-08-02T21:20:25.062-07:002010-08-02T21:20:25.062-07:00I got scared for a minute there. At first, I thoug...I got scared for a minute there. At first, I thought some secret part of me wrote this awhile ago, and somehow it got on the internet without my knowledge. Then I realized the examples were different, but it was the experiences that made it seem so familiar. I'm sorry you're going through this- but i'm glad (selfishly) that I am not alone. I want to let you know that you are NOT Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-7347227537520794902010-08-02T17:44:19.108-07:002010-08-02T17:44:19.108-07:00Wow! Great for you. I had to leave my family too. ...Wow! Great for you. I had to leave my family too. I am 47 and it took me until I was 42. They kind of helped me along because some of them disowned me when I got together with my now fiancee'. They really did me a favor and gave me the strength to cut the strings and move on with my own life and my own family (I have four children). Sure sometimes it sucks and you wish you had a mom but you Laurienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-65653118721783543402010-07-25T13:53:00.513-07:002010-07-25T13:53:00.513-07:00p.s. I like what one of the Anonymous readers sai...p.s. I like what one of the Anonymous readers said about no longer curling up in your mommy's lap. It's almost like...now that you an adult, you need to see that there is nothing wrong with being your own mother and learning to LOVE YOURSELF. It's so much easier to have someone else love you. :-) But if you start doing nice things for <b>yourself</b>, then you might like it.x o x o u ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09519105373985656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-57553824722868529752010-07-25T13:49:16.790-07:002010-07-25T13:49:16.790-07:00The thing about us having a blog as a sounding boa...The thing about us having a blog as a sounding board for ourselves is something I understand, but I wish you wouldn't feel so alone. You have the whole blogosphere in which to find solace and friendship and good listeners.<br /><br />There are real, live, actual human women reading your entries. If you reach out to us, I'm sure you'll find that you won't be turned away. ~hug~x o x o u ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09519105373985656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-27935465427270388532010-07-24T12:13:18.596-07:002010-07-24T12:13:18.596-07:00You are no longer a kid. You no longer need valida...You are no longer a kid. You no longer need validation from your mother, but yet the little girl inside you keeps holding on to what your 6 or 12 year old self needed. As an adult, your parents opinion is just an opinion, not a life altering changing force. They no longer have the power over you to affect your life in catastrophic ways. Example: They can't move you to a new town and force youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-56157296449687180062010-07-20T17:39:37.531-07:002010-07-20T17:39:37.531-07:00I am so sorryy. You deserve a much better mom. So...I am so sorryy. You deserve a much better mom. Somehow you turned out great, you should be very proud of yourself! And your boyfriend sounds wonderful, I'd keep him around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-35423017312690282582010-07-20T13:36:18.088-07:002010-07-20T13:36:18.088-07:00Don't beat yourself up for giving your mom cha...Don't beat yourself up for giving your mom chances --that's a normal thing to do. You were looking for your mom to be nurturing and supportive - obviosuly she is not. <br /><br />Please stick by your resolve to re-read this when you're thinking about calling her. She is toxic. She is unkind. She will never be what you would like her to be. She is the one lacking, not you.<br /><Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com