tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post1822226775911891079..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: Fear Of FailureHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-43345001972148123072008-10-08T06:19:00.000-07:002008-10-08T06:19:00.000-07:00I was a single mom from ages 16 to 24. Yup, I was...I was a single mom from ages 16 to 24. Yup, I was that blight on society-a teen mom. *chuckle* You are absolutely right, it is *really flipping hard* and no one who hasn't been there would understand-except those who aren't single, but have absent spouses. But, it does make you stronger than you ever thought you could be.<BR/><BR/>You are the safe one to act out with. You won't ever leave. CheekySweetiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01702035372246068734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-82302954632286091742008-09-23T11:19:00.000-07:002008-09-23T11:19:00.000-07:00I've been a single mum my son's whole life. Once y...I've been a single mum my son's whole life. Once you get in the swing of it, get yourself into a rhythym and work out what works for you, you'll find it much easier. You just have to look at the positives and do it with a smile.<BR/><BR/>It must be so hard for kids when parents split up. I guess it was much easier for my son because it's all he's ever known.<BR/><BR/>How old is your son? People Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-32626561251480190472008-09-23T09:32:00.000-07:002008-09-23T09:32:00.000-07:00The above commenter said something about kids acti...The above commenter said something about kids acting up with the parent they trust the most, and I think nothing is more true. <BR/><BR/>The answer to "Why does my son behave so badly?" is...because he can. Because you are his safe place to land. Even if you don't think you are right now. He knows that, in you, he has unconditional love and he can act out with you and it will be ok.<BR/><BR/>Candyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14070433904661239686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-17726681200491343842008-09-23T09:12:00.000-07:002008-09-23T09:12:00.000-07:00I can totally relate. I have been a single mom fo...I can totally relate. I have been a single mom for over two years now. At first, my daughter behaved just like your son. She was angry and confused (she was 5 at the time) and I felt like she was taking it out on me, because she would be "perfect" when she saw her dad. I think kids act the worst for the parent they trust the most. I know that doesn't make it any easier. And I know how hard Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-28119106401744280752008-09-23T08:54:00.001-07:002008-09-23T08:54:00.001-07:00I can totally relate with the child thing and feel...I can totally relate with the child thing and feeling like you just want to run away and hide. They have a direct link to our buttons because they are literally part of us and were installed at birth!<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry about the financial struggles, it is the most common reason for people to NOT get divorced! So many people live miserable lives married just because they can't afford to pay Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-17415020493150813532008-09-23T08:54:00.000-07:002008-09-23T08:54:00.000-07:00First, you are not alone. Every mother, whether s...First, you are not alone. Every mother, whether she will admit it or not, has felt that way at some point.<BR/>Not knowing how old your son is, it's difficult to give any advice, but this is what has been working for my four year old in the absence of his father (his Dad works out of town all week, home on weekends): I take away things he loves. Teddy bears, favorite toys, whatever. Then he Karen Bodkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02648840299789088421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-48441555709405951592008-09-23T08:00:00.000-07:002008-09-23T08:00:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry. I don't know what it feels like to b...I'm so sorry. I don't know what it feels like to be in your position, but I know what it feels like to have nothing left to give and miles to go before you sleep.<BR/><BR/>At one point in my life, when I was very sure that I was in over my head and destined for failure, I got a fortune cookie that said: "you can do everything you ought to do". I still have it.<BR/><BR/>You can do everything you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com