tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post1933339109538138508..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: I Feel BrokenHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-5470391538731887302009-02-13T12:06:00.000-08:002009-02-13T12:06:00.000-08:00I agree with the prior commenters; K was there for...I agree with the prior commenters; K was there for a reason, and he helped you break free of the destruction.<BR/><BR/>But now you need to rebuild. Don't overlook the possibility of talking with a trained counselor. Sometimes (if they are good), they can help you see patterns in your life, and to find strength in yourself. Sometimes it helps just to have an adult to vent to.<BR/><BR/>And you LegalMisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00197525109022776598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-72836699037820947202009-02-09T10:58:00.000-08:002009-02-09T10:58:00.000-08:00I LOVE your last paragraph. its so beautiful. it's...I LOVE your last paragraph. its so beautiful. it's ok to need someone else. we all do. HUGS. and now you have a daughter you just gotta be extra careful about finding the right one who will stick around and treat you both the way you deserve. And even tho K wasn't perfect, he should give you hope! hope of how a nice man can treat you! even if he isn't ready for that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-33642884889443325222009-02-08T09:35:00.000-08:002009-02-08T09:35:00.000-08:00OK, here's the thing in my opinion. You weren't u...OK, here's the thing in my opinion. You weren't used by K, you chose to jump in. It didn't work out. But at least he provided the push you needed to let go of that cheating dog and now you're free. That was probably his whole purpose in your life. <BR/><BR/>Don't look at what you had with K as giving yourself to someone and getting screwed, that's not what it was. Most relationships won't Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-70652678582213328362009-02-06T22:20:00.000-08:002009-02-06T22:20:00.000-08:00Oops- my advice was an echo of the first Anonymous...Oops- my advice was an echo of the first Anonymous. Doesn't make it any less true.Hayleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15182755801738614449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-66858963938628339392009-02-06T22:19:00.000-08:002009-02-06T22:19:00.000-08:00I left my ex-husband last year. It was horrible, ...I left my ex-husband last year. It was horrible, but I got through it, just like you. I didn't have a painful rebound- I ended up marrying my rebound and I'm so happy- but let me just tell you, you'll be ok. You were strong enough to leave both in the first place. You can get through this. Focus on you, focus on your girl, and something better will find you when you're ready. <BR/><BR/>Hayleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15182755801738614449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-50419617050375473462009-02-06T13:06:00.000-08:002009-02-06T13:06:00.000-08:00I want to say something to you, but I don't know w...I want to say something to you, but I don't know what. How can I offer anything to you, a woman so strong and fierce in the face of what has broken many others? <BR/><BR/>I do know I want to give you a hug. And I want to say I am in awe of you. For your strength. Your courage. Your determination. Your love for your child. Your sense of self worth. Your demand for something better for Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-62642427134088619992009-02-06T12:14:00.000-08:002009-02-06T12:14:00.000-08:00I'm so sorry for all the hurt you've been through....I'm so sorry for all the hurt you've been through. Oftentimes the "courage" it takes to leave an abusive spouse is in the form of another man and K was that for you. In your case I think K was a good thing in your life. He was what you needed to get out of a bad relationship, but he may not have been what you needed for your future. I think God puts people into our lives for a reason. Now that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-7382765043968163642009-02-06T04:21:00.000-08:002009-02-06T04:21:00.000-08:00YOU are SO much stronger alone. And this will pa...YOU are SO much stronger alone. And this will pass. All this heart break will make you a much better, wiser, stronger person. And when that right person comes along, he will be grateful to have you. And he will come along. And he will admire your strengths and love you fully and unconditionally. Just keep moving forward with your life and raise your daughter to be proud of her mother, MYSUESTORIEShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16716640263579647772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-51070282923600174862009-02-05T16:27:00.000-08:002009-02-05T16:27:00.000-08:00I have been where you are, and it hurts, but it ge...I have been where you are, and it hurts, but it gets better. The more you hurt without letting someone or something else get you over the hurt is better for you in the long run. Don't avoid your hurt with drugs or alcohol, don't avoid the hurt with another man, don't avoid the hurt by focusing on something else...accept the hurt and embrace it and then you will see your true self take shape Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-62876671007479874712009-02-05T13:47:00.000-08:002009-02-05T13:47:00.000-08:00Hang in there! I don't throw this out here friviou...Hang in there! I don't throw this out here friviously! I lived through a cheat and divorce and the subsequent relationship. My ex cheated with my best friend of all people so I kind of had the double indemnity clause there. :)<BR/>That rebound person (and yes that is what they are) are there for a reason. For me it helped me see reality and made me stronger and able to go on. Just focus on you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-69462467844517469352009-02-04T11:14:00.000-08:002009-02-04T11:14:00.000-08:00You are a strong person. You were strong enough to...You are a strong person. You were strong enough to leave your ex, and you were strong enough to walk away from another relationship that was not going to be good for you. Remember that! Maybe you need to switch focus to just you and your daughter and not worry about having a relationship right now? Maybe switching the focus to ME and not US is what you need. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there hun. Things Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-65800733009939718952009-02-04T05:52:00.000-08:002009-02-04T05:52:00.000-08:00Wow. I am thinking that only putting one foot in f...Wow. I am thinking that only putting one foot in front of the other day after day is going to change things. As a mom of 2 I can related to "still being a person, not just a mom". I think that is good. For now though, remind yourself of the example you have set for your daughter- not to settle for anything less than you deserve. Hang in there. Surely with the spring will come some hope.gooddoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05491256236858582306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-47005799516876609432009-02-03T23:29:00.000-08:002009-02-03T23:29:00.000-08:00Haha reading over my comment makes me realise that...Haha reading over my comment makes me realise that each paragraph sounds like an inspirational quote.<BR/><BR/>Sorry.. but it's true.<BR/><BR/>I hope I've inspired you to be strong! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-83717921858383437932009-02-03T23:26:00.000-08:002009-02-03T23:26:00.000-08:00Don't give up.. keep holding on.You've clearly bee...Don't give up.. keep holding on.<BR/><BR/>You've clearly been hurt before and might even be hurt again, but giving up will leave you hurting forever.<BR/><BR/>I'm young, I haven't experienced what you have, but I have had my fair share of hurt and the one thing I have learnt is to be stronger.<BR/><BR/>Don't let your past dictate your future and never judge someone based on the people in your Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com