tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post2232303598236435414..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: Asking For HelpHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-59769963585371463112009-09-26T21:50:34.555-07:002009-09-26T21:50:34.555-07:00You did ALL THE RIGHT THINGS. I have felt what yo...You did ALL THE RIGHT THINGS. I have felt what you did, and I was ON my medication at the time. I've screamed in my daughters face at the top of my lungs and then cried about it for hours. Please, please know that you are under an unbelievable amount of stress. You MUST to talk to your therapist and doc. You are doing the right things. Go easy on yourself. You ARE doing the right Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-18268225941916686332009-09-26T13:49:59.472-07:002009-09-26T13:49:59.472-07:00I've given myself many a time out. The fact th...I've given myself many a time out. The fact that you stopped yourself says so much about you as a mother. You never acted on the impulse and the fact that you are seeking help should absolve you of guilt. Sending hugs.Janehttp://theycallmejane.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-21442002716563520302009-09-23T18:21:37.402-07:002009-09-23T18:21:37.402-07:00I've been there, too. You are not alone.
It w...I've been there, too. You are not alone.<br />It was the reason I dragged myself to the GP, got myself medicated again, and started sorting my life out. You sound as if you're on the right track to getting things sorted. The first step is always the hardest.<br />My other half has also read your post, and although it probably sounds weird coming from total strangers, *hugs* from both Katherinehttp://mademoisellejones.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-53622941965695449612009-09-19T07:26:20.322-07:002009-09-19T07:26:20.322-07:00I have been there and completely understand. You C...I have been there and completely understand. You CAN do this. You can heal. You can keep your baby. Your baby will forget about this as long as it's not habitual.<br /> Missing your antidepressants and your vitamins combined with hormones can be LETHAL, either to the Mom or baby or both.<br /> For God's sake, please, please get medicated, stay medicated. The famous blogger Dooce Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-33716119971865262232009-09-18T11:39:21.187-07:002009-09-18T11:39:21.187-07:00The fact that you accidentally went cold turkey of...The fact that you accidentally went cold turkey off your drugs could have been a major motivator in this episode. I know of someone who did the same thing and took a baseball bat to his basement. My friend who is a pharmacist says that the cold turkey is what did it because of how the brain functions and stuff. I once stopped taking antidepressants without weaning and it scared the shit out ofstehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16371040443070224482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-42168883252125965382009-09-18T10:33:51.997-07:002009-09-18T10:33:51.997-07:00Bad moments in life have a way of feeling terrifin...Bad moments in life have a way of feeling terrifingly overwhelming, like you'll be stuck in that pain and anger forever. But you won't.<br /><br />Life will ALWAYS move you forward, and things usually get better, bit by bit, they get bearable again.<br /><br />You did everything just right. Every single mother has had those breaking point moments. After a few, you'll learn to see themMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16085632875123586185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-49344305617168653602009-09-17T19:42:46.072-07:002009-09-17T19:42:46.072-07:00There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You a...There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are just being human.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-3760333320068273572009-09-17T10:18:16.044-07:002009-09-17T10:18:16.044-07:00You are not the only Mommy to almost lose it entir...You are not the only Mommy to almost lose it entirely --but you are a good Mommy for keeping your baby safe. You are a good Mommy for getting help, going back on your meds, and finding a way to move forward. Try to let go of the guilt -- your little one doesn't need you to be perfect --she would much prefer that you get help and are there when she hits her teens, twentie and thirties.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-5913791170334232952009-09-16T19:57:24.041-07:002009-09-16T19:57:24.041-07:00You've already taken the first few steps, beli...You've already taken the first few steps, believe it or not.<br />1 - you separated yourself from your child, ensuring that you would NOT harm her.<br />2 - you called your husband and told him what was going on.<br />3 - you wrote this out, dissected it in your own mind, and shared it publicly.<br />4 - You know there's an issue, and you're not willing to let it continue. <br />So, Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13305997189254473548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-70663681892725082252009-09-16T15:37:08.728-07:002009-09-16T15:37:08.728-07:00I could have written this. I have tears streaming...I could have written this. I have tears streaming down my face. It has been such a bad day. I don't know what to do to help myself. <br /><br />But hearing that someone else is there, has been there... that helps. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-91088377250242487102009-09-16T14:49:20.186-07:002009-09-16T14:49:20.186-07:00If you "don't want to raise my daughter t...If you "don't want to raise my daughter to fear me because I'm unpredictable" then you need to tell your therapist about this. Once you CHOOSE to have a child, it's not about you anymore.Thrift Store Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00801507829451765963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-89108276483533619392009-09-16T13:45:55.652-07:002009-09-16T13:45:55.652-07:0015 years ago, I could have written this very same ...15 years ago, I could have written this very same post. You're not alone. You aren't a bad person. And I will echo the others who have said you did the right things. <br /><br />Don't let fear keep you from reaching out for help. And you're right... if you can't tell your therapist, you need a new therapist.<br /><br />One day at a time. You will be ok.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-78807413991635686402009-09-16T13:03:32.286-07:002009-09-16T13:03:32.286-07:00Everyone, EVERY mother has moments when they think...Everyone, EVERY mother has moments when they think the unthinkable. What makes you a good mom, a good person, is that in that moment, you chose the right thing, you did EVERYTHING exactly right! You listed lots of people you don't want to be. But you DO want to be the person your family talks about with pride. "She got her life together. She turned things around." You want to be an Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-68501272419342358072009-09-16T10:04:38.782-07:002009-09-16T10:04:38.782-07:00I totally agree with Jill... You took all the righ...I totally agree with Jill... You took all the right steps when you realized your emotions were out of control, and you deserve credit for that. <br /><br />Everyone reaches a breaking point like this at some time- nobody is going to commit you for reaching it, too. *hugs* to you. Don't think for a minute that having one incident like this means you aren't a good mom or that you didn'Jaden Paigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05711181837109867842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-60064054186206167482009-09-16T08:17:18.142-07:002009-09-16T08:17:18.142-07:00What you did... stopping yourself, recognizing you...What you did... stopping yourself, recognizing your emotions were dangerously out of control, asking for help and accepting it.... those are all positive signs. You didn't hurt your baby. You didn't throw the alarm clock. You may have been close, but you didn't cross the line that's what matters. I hope you can be honest with your therapist. I can't imagine DCS being involved Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15835303750336050596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-81055368348257686752009-09-16T08:07:18.425-07:002009-09-16T08:07:18.425-07:00I recognise so much of this in myself. I've b...I recognise so much of this in myself. I've been at that point where I couldn't go near my baby for fear of what I might do to him, knowing that if I did, it wouldn't be safe for either of us.<br />Eventually I got up the courage to speak with my doctor, and she was more hopeful than I could ever have imagined. And, while I may not have admitted it to my family (five years on my Vichttp://glowstars.netnoreply@blogger.com