tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post2655649156489482607..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: Without YouHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-90225853977438955742011-01-17T23:10:52.722-08:002011-01-17T23:10:52.722-08:00I know exactly how you feel...I know exactly how you feel...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-4374536326555342912010-11-17T14:29:28.260-08:002010-11-17T14:29:28.260-08:00Anon 7:02 lost me on the "stay away from coun...Anon 7:02 lost me on the "stay away from counseling" advice...<br /><br />I think it's also pretty clear that SHE left HIM, but that's really inconsequential.<br /><br />Anon 11:57 says it best!Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152215204773184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-21863280306748740812010-11-14T23:57:33.608-08:002010-11-14T23:57:33.608-08:00All you really have in this world is what you say,...All you really have in this world is what you say, what you do, and what you're intentions are. When you speak or act you define yourself, the other people are already defined. The human brain is not fully developed until age 20-25 years. The children are still maturing--difficult situation, and now they are not only grieving but processing a lot of complex emotions regarding the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-13795238757274698112010-11-10T09:38:20.518-08:002010-11-10T09:38:20.518-08:00I agree with anonymous at 6:50 am - the one who sa...I agree with anonymous at 6:50 am - the one who said, "These kids have a lot of anger and nowhere to put it. They know they can trust and rely on you, so they take it out on you."<br />It's like when kids are little... they can push boundaries at home, where they know they are loved, but won't do it at school or elsewhere, where they are not sure. They can get angry at you and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-26507067675213700212010-11-10T08:58:56.224-08:002010-11-10T08:58:56.224-08:00The post from Anonymous, two posts above this that...The post from Anonymous, two posts above this that begins "I don't know how you got together with her ex, but it seems to me that it devastated her."<br /><br />I completely and utterly disagree with pretty much everything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-3642392472013195852010-11-10T08:29:22.795-08:002010-11-10T08:29:22.795-08:00My parents divorced when I was 3, and I've had...My parents divorced when I was 3, and I've had the same stepdad since I was 5 (I'm 34 now). My dad killed himself when I was 11. So... background.<br /><br />Give the kids time. They'll (probably) come back around to you. They know you love them, but they're hurting. It doesn't matter what kind of (non) mom their mom was. It doesn't matter what kind of person she was with Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06560923893875596928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-14956531546012024262010-11-10T07:02:52.444-08:002010-11-10T07:02:52.444-08:00I don't know how you got together with her ex,...I don't know how you got together with her ex, but it seems to me that it devastated her. <br /><br />Give the kids space. LOTS of space. Keep being honest with your feelings of anger and wasted time, but not openly to them or their dad. Grieve with them though. If you loved her too, then show that. Be sad about that. Let them know each and every time that you miss her too. Go along with the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-2396901749687082392010-11-10T06:50:31.835-08:002010-11-10T06:50:31.835-08:00These kids have a lot of anger and nowhere to put ...These kids have a lot of anger and nowhere to put it. They know they can trust and rely on you, so they take it out on you. (It sounds counter-intuitive, but it's true)<br />Please, as a family, go into counseling. Or get them some one on one help. They're confused and angry, so they're lashing out. Trust me, those kids love you and think of you as their mom --but they probably Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-56923578149630065412010-11-10T06:48:56.029-08:002010-11-10T06:48:56.029-08:00my prayers are with you. they need time to heal an...my prayers are with you. they need time to heal and realize they were taking their grief out on the only person they knew could take it. be strong. you didnt waste a single moment of your life on them. good things will come to you it just takes time for kids (especially teens) to realize who loves them and is there for themAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-18795730323126032052010-11-10T06:01:53.484-08:002010-11-10T06:01:53.484-08:00It sounds like your kids (and yes - they are yours...It sounds like your kids (and yes - they are yours) are hurting and looking for someone to blame. It's easier than dealing with the pain. You don't say where your husband stands in all of this, but I think you need to be strong together and get the kids some help - some counseling. They need to deal with their grief and pain. And when they do, they will realize that they still love andGinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00684328990767140199noreply@blogger.com