tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post2766909820299301650..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: Angry Mother, Bad Mother?Her Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-50252604698047342252014-09-14T17:33:24.113-07:002014-09-14T17:33:24.113-07:00I am so ashamed to admit to anyone about my terrib...I am so ashamed to admit to anyone about my terrible behaviour towards my children. I am so scared that anyone will find out that I am writing this that I dare not even describe to situation itself! Or explain how many children, or their ages, for fear that someone will recognise the similarities. I wish I could offer advice but all the things I have tried so far have not worked for me. You Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-28965713990107948192012-05-10T03:41:16.646-07:002012-05-10T03:41:16.646-07:00I have to wonder how many of us googled Angry Moth...I have to wonder how many of us googled Angry Mother & found this! It was exactly what I needed to read today. I'm the mother of a 6 year old boy & an almost 2 year old hurricane, sorry - daughter. Alot of my attention is directed at my girl and my son has quite a pleasant nature, he's always been a 'good kid'. Which doesn't stop me from screaming at him when I'm DeadlyClarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04065220862089812541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-28610676060159314862011-12-22T06:05:28.812-08:002011-12-22T06:05:28.812-08:00I am a single mum to four kids two girls 11 & ...I am a single mum to four kids two girls 11 & 9 two boys 7 & 6. I used to be a calm mum until my marriage went bad and looking back now i started taking out my frustrations on the kids that my husband took out on me. I am at the point now where i do not like my kids very much anymore but when i sit and watch the behaviour I know exactly where they have learned it. The trouble is how to hopingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-44330993336142787422011-05-31T18:24:23.503-07:002011-05-31T18:24:23.503-07:00Thank you, a thousand times, thank you. I love my ...Thank you, a thousand times, thank you. I love my 3 sons dearly, but every day I find myself yelling at them over trivial things. I am the kind of mother I used to look down on. I hate the things that come out of my mouth. I fear that I am damaging them emotionally. And yet I don't stop. I need help, but at least now I am finding that I am not alone.Jennethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12223924873887361826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-67012265237550555492010-11-22T09:32:33.041-08:002010-11-22T09:32:33.041-08:00Our family is in a struggle as well. My husband wo...Our family is in a struggle as well. My husband works 7 days a week most weeks and is too tired to help when he gets home. Yet money is still tight, by tight I mean poverty level. I am not getting enough sleep and I am trying to just get through the day of cleaning and maintaining which is difficult because I have excema on my hands. By the time the kids are in bed I am exhausted and can't Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-45678459493081151392009-11-03T21:53:15.955-08:002009-11-03T21:53:15.955-08:00Dear angry bad mother,
I happen to think you are ...Dear angry bad mother,<br /><br />I happen to think you are the best mother I have ever known. The day to day situation may be taking it's toll on you - but there isn't a more patient, understanding and loving parent in the world. You are a healer, a confidante and able to give guidance without judgement and a quiet calm when it is needed the most. Your children adore you. You teach by Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-67549279283254141892009-11-03T20:18:51.426-08:002009-11-03T20:18:51.426-08:00I'm going through the same thing and having a ...I'm going through the same thing and having a very hard time identifying who I am any more without being called "mom" every 2 mins. I have a 12 yr old daughter, with lots of attitude and a 4 yr old son who climbs the walls. I am not easily heard within my own household and find myself competing with the kids yelling, dog barking, and tv blaring. I'm a soft spoken person and it Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-86319962353719616572009-07-21T23:03:37.586-07:002009-07-21T23:03:37.586-07:00You are not alone. I have just 2 kids and they go ...You are not alone. I have just 2 kids and they go to school for 3 hours. I work part-time from home and take care of most of the household things. But somehow i just dont have patience to do anything with my kids.....i feel sad for them....i quit my FT job just to be with them and now i am bored if i have to play with them. Earlier i used to live in an apartment where the kids had company , now Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-15340386697548674542009-03-30T17:25:00.000-07:002009-03-30T17:25:00.000-07:00Thank you for this, and all the comments- I too fo...Thank you for this, and all the comments- I too found this when googling "angry mother". I am beside myself right now with anger, frustration, guilt, etc.... but am relieved (and yet sorrowed) to read that at least I am not alone. I think anger is the dirty secret among moms these days.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-28247493847439511672008-03-26T08:37:00.000-07:002008-03-26T08:37:00.000-07:00This is the first time I have ever posted a commen...This is the first time I have ever posted a comment on anything...reading your admissions of anger and frustration and knowing that I am not alone made me feel much better than all the advice that also came up with this google. Thank you for your honesty. I, too, try to remember all I have to be thankful for which is a lot, but often it only makes me feel more guilty for my feelings of anger. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-49534027552315151392007-11-26T07:16:00.000-08:002007-11-26T07:16:00.000-08:00Thank you!I found your entry when I googled 'angry...Thank you!<BR/>I found your entry when I googled 'angry mother'. That is who I've become.<BR/>I am at peace with finding other mother's just like me. Not that it makes it okay, only now I don't feel so alone.<BR/>I am also a mother of 3, ages 11, 8 and 1. And I, too, coped very well with the first two children. The past year has been extremely difficult. I had postpartum depression, a baby Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-61203976568183755642007-11-17T15:17:00.000-08:002007-11-17T15:17:00.000-08:00It is the HARDEST and most UNAPPRECIATED job in th...It is the HARDEST and most <BR/>UNAPPRECIATED job in the world, being a mother, and the most ridiculous thing about it is that <BR/>the better you are at it the quicker you get FIRED. How's that for motivation and incentive? It is the most emotionally draining thing in the world. PLEASe dont be so hard on yourself. I am sure you are way better than you think you<BR/>are.juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18036471718719615647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-76164592265212064092007-05-08T18:31:00.000-07:002007-05-08T18:31:00.000-07:00i have the same problem...a very short fuse...tota...i have the same problem...a very short fuse...totally modeling exactly the behavior I do not want my kids to have...it's really awful...I have mostly great stretches but every once in a while I even scare myself with my inability to get a grip and chill out....I am usually great at making up with the kids, but I'd rather not lose it in the first place...I have a 15 month old who is great, but hasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-28739325654933482152007-04-18T10:49:00.000-07:002007-04-18T10:49:00.000-07:00I have 3 boys at home, one by birth 2 by "inherita...I have 3 boys at home, one by birth 2 by "inheritance" and I feel like I've become a bad mother to them all<BR/><BR/>Where I used to have routine and rules they are not being upheld by the babysitter (my inherited children's grandmother) and I'm left to establish them all over again EVERYDAMN DAY, and feel like my evenings are spent yelling just to be heard...and even then I'm ignored. My kids Mandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14760255386773757640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-87876168650097054512007-03-21T06:52:00.000-07:002007-03-21T06:52:00.000-07:00For the last comment...strike does more harm than ...For the last comment...strike does more harm than good. Trust me, I have tried it. It just opens a big can of "who makes the money" worms and then NOTHING gets solved! And for the conversations with the older ones...part of the problem is that I have explained about setting good examples etc. This is why I am now angry...my words have gone unheard and I am now droning on to hear myself.<BR/><Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-7311853699476115662007-03-21T06:21:00.000-07:002007-03-21T06:21:00.000-07:00I think you need to go on strike and your husband ...I think you need to go on strike and your husband needs to start pulling some of his own weight. <BR/><BR/>It sounds like you've carried everybody for at least 12 years and now the family needs have a family meeting and to be reorganized to work like a team, Dad included. <BR/><BR/>The older ones are old enough to understand that they shouldn't be encouraging the little one's antics. You can haveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-27625595955092420922007-03-17T23:04:00.000-07:002007-03-17T23:04:00.000-07:00Check out the Faber and Mazlish books: "How To Tal...Check out the Faber and Mazlish books: "How To Talk so Kids Will Listen..." and their "How to Talk to Teens" book. I sorta made a joke about them in my last blog post, but honestly they are THE BEST BOOKS on discipline with respect and handing over responsibilities to your children. Parenting with natural and logical consequences instead of your being the dictator in the house.<BR/><BR/>That saidjosetteplank.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16790825543155685363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-19980956663929174832007-03-13T18:55:00.000-07:002007-03-13T18:55:00.000-07:00I, too, find myself being angry all the time with ...I, too, find myself being angry all the time with my 13 year old daughter. It is either that or I am being that distant mom who only speaks to give directions. I hate it, but sometimes I feel I can't stop it. She and I are going to start therapy, not because she has any huge behavior problem, but because we can't seem to talk to each other. Now, it is different with my 4yo son. I find myselfAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-6855689646531900642007-03-13T14:41:00.000-07:002007-03-13T14:41:00.000-07:00the baby/toddler years are very covered but there ...the baby/toddler years are very covered but there really isn't enough info for parents of older kids. modeling how i want them to treat each other is what works for me. but that takes loads of patience which you only have when you are taking good care of yourself. and, unfortunately, no two people are the same when it comes to getting their needs met so there is no way for me or anyone to tell leahpeahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17616895907244015956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-35670160046764244702007-03-13T13:31:00.000-07:002007-03-13T13:31:00.000-07:00I am quick to get angry with my boys. I have alwa...I am quick to get angry with my boys. I have always been impatient and short-tempered. But I have tried very hard not to inflict these traits on my children. So if I feel myself going from 0-100 (on the anger scale) unnecessarily, I do my best to stop myself, even mid-sentence, leave the room for a moment, and slowly count to 10. It's the same thing I have my kids do when they're headed for aShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-65684486057458109482007-03-11T08:25:00.000-07:002007-03-11T08:25:00.000-07:00I'm not one to hand out adivce normally, but I'd b...I'm not one to hand out adivce normally, but I'd be happy to give you some tips if you would like to read. This might be a long post, so others may want to skip over. I'm a single mom of 2 (13 and 11) and live with my boyfriend and his 12 y/o. So I've been and currently am still in the tween years. I work a full time job (40+ hours a week) and b/f owns his own business, so we've had to make Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-85066842981285988512007-03-11T03:19:00.000-07:002007-03-11T03:19:00.000-07:00I think everyone gets angry at some time in life. ...I think everyone gets angry at some time in life. It doesn't make you a bad mother--it makes you an overly stressed and cranky mother.<BR/><BR/>I too am angry, and I only have a toddler!<BR/><BR/>It sounds as if you are hard on yourself--don't be. Do what you can do. Pick a few unbreakable rules and let the rest go.<BR/><BR/>Give yourself a break.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-35710279356805081062007-03-09T10:52:00.000-08:002007-03-09T10:52:00.000-08:00I didn't know I wasn't the only one feeling this w...I didn't know I wasn't the only one feeling this way. I'm getting help from therapy to work through my feelings, and on 'drugs' too. I agree with the others that sleep deprivation and not enough time for yourself are key, at least they are for me. I find it so difficult to be self aware enough to identify what the issues are...thank goodness for therapy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-60508255857114300962007-03-09T05:39:00.000-08:002007-03-09T05:39:00.000-08:00You don't mention how you're sleeping. For me, th...You don't mention how you're sleeping. For me, the equation is pretty simple: chronic lack of sleep + anything = constant anger. If you're sleep-deprived, do not mistake the way you are right now for who you really are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-52441987791305221002007-03-09T01:08:00.000-08:002007-03-09T01:08:00.000-08:00I have found lately that my 10 yr old reminds me o...I have found lately that my 10 yr old reminds me of all the laziness and easily distractedness that annoys me in her father.<BR/><BR/>I have been overly harsh and hard on her. Recognizing I was lashing out at her with my frustrations for him has helped me stop. <BR/><BR/>You do need some alone time...but take some of that time to think over what you are allowing to trigger the anger. SometimesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com