tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post3560901198488417524..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: Dear MomHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-90792296132280038842009-06-08T16:38:22.225-07:002009-06-08T16:38:22.225-07:00I haven't talked to my parents for a year. Bes...I haven't talked to my parents for a year. Best year of my life. <br /><br />I agree that some people just shouldn't be parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-46774794702037881762009-06-07T02:01:55.270-07:002009-06-07T02:01:55.270-07:00Wow. What a heartbreaking story.
I hope you will...Wow. What a heartbreaking story.<br /><br />I hope you will consider counseling, not because you are not good enough - you are! - but to help you come to terms with the fact that your mom wasn't "good enough," and maybe gain some insight into how that affects you and how you can move forward and feel good about yourself.<br /><br />It sounds to me like you have many reasons to feelLegalMisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00197525109022776598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-41154816661542805982009-06-03T17:03:59.439-07:002009-06-03T17:03:59.439-07:00I just wanted to say "I'm sorry" for...I just wanted to say "I'm sorry" for all of the times you should have heard it from your mother.<br /><br />I have a feeling you haven't heard that enough in your life, though you definitely have deserved to.<br /><br />I hardly ever comment on the stories that I read here, but I'm sure there are many more like me who want you to know, we're praying for you, and YOU ARE Sarah in Arizonanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-85787119927654182242009-06-02T14:32:12.853-07:002009-06-02T14:32:12.853-07:00I think we all agree. The Poster holds no blame. ...I think we all agree. The Poster holds no blame. I doubt there was/is anything she could have done to deserve the situation she is in and I doubt there is anything she can and/or should try to do. She can't fix this because she didn't have a hand in creating this crazy situation.<br />I think the best thing for her and hers is to ignore all communication from her so-called mother. If push Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-56718631480123201462009-06-02T12:16:46.268-07:002009-06-02T12:16:46.268-07:00I just saw your reply.
Just wanted to add - I've b...I just saw your reply.<br />Just wanted to add - I've been out of touch with the father for two years and more now. I wonder if he and his parents are alive or dead sometimes, but things are really so so so much better without him in my life.<br /><br />It gets easier as time goes by, and the self-image ruined by abuse begins to recover.Sukihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15205343414733865259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-65560303802596940432009-06-02T12:13:13.863-07:002009-06-02T12:13:13.863-07:001. Please don't feel guilty about cutting your mom...1. Please don't feel guilty about cutting your mom completely out of your life. I've done this with my dad, and I'm so much happier. Stop receiving calls or replying to mails. Stop calling. Live your own life.<br />2. You are worth the love and affection you get. But some people just aren't equipped to offer love and affection. Unless it serves their own needs, of course. How she treated you is Sukihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15205343414733865259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-51705464255104844302009-06-02T09:40:44.097-07:002009-06-02T09:40:44.097-07:00I'm the writer of this post. You know, the sad par...I'm the writer of this post. You know, the sad part is this letter doesn't evev begin to touch on what they did to me. Seeing my letter posted and your comments to me help more than I imagined it could. In a weird way I'm glad I wasn't the favored child. I could have become my sister. By them hurting me as they did they've made me a better mommy. I do everything in my power to be the best mommy, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-36301723886257646822009-06-02T08:16:40.186-07:002009-06-02T08:16:40.186-07:00God bless you! That is the most horrible Basement...God bless you! That is the most horrible Basement Post I've read in quite a while. Not horribly written (very, very good writing) but such a horrible series of experiences.<br />I hope that since you are now a parent you realize not a speck of whatever the bleep your mother's problem is could possibly be your fault.<br />I can't imagine growing up in such an environment. It is so obvious that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-55721377585936324622009-06-02T05:56:05.555-07:002009-06-02T05:56:05.555-07:00I am glad that you have been doing better for your...I am glad that you have been doing better for yourself, and I hope that writing this has helped you.<br /><br />I wish you all the best as you continue to deal with these issues.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09188733653627326208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-11156687199892711032009-06-01T20:31:30.150-07:002009-06-01T20:31:30.150-07:00Congrats on breaking the cycle of neglect and abus...Congrats on breaking the cycle of neglect and abuse!!!!!! HOORAY for you. Your boys are lucky to have you.<br /><br />As for Mom.....sometimes one just has to let go of the past and the present with a parent. It sounds like you and your family are better off w/o her.<br /><br />Best wishes!!!!Crazed Nitwithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09433413927453925851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-62693373719888692802009-06-01T16:10:20.908-07:002009-06-01T16:10:20.908-07:00You are braver and healthier than you know. Lettin...You are braver and healthier than you know. Letting all this out here is a very good idea. Keep your perspective - your best revenge is to be the best mother you can for your own babies, and it seems that is what you are accomplishing! <br />Hang in there!<br />(Oh, and my parents refused to sign my FAFSA forms also - costing me thousands of dollars in aide. I managed to be a success in spite of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-925419226968561722009-06-01T15:39:11.635-07:002009-06-01T15:39:11.635-07:00Oh, honey. You're good enough. You have a crappy m...Oh, honey. You're good enough. You have a crappy mom and a crappy sister. What are you getting from having them in your life? In your shoes, I would walk away. Easy to say, you might be thinking, but I've done it and am better for it. I wish you peace and strength, and a really good therapist to help you realize that you don't deserve any of the awful treatment you've received from people who Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-74016289002698192472009-06-01T14:02:21.588-07:002009-06-01T14:02:21.588-07:00You sound as if you are an excellent mother to you...You sound as if you are an excellent mother to your children. Good for you not having that drama in your life. I know what it feels like in a family with favourites. Its soul destroying. Maybe someday you will be in a better place to be able to deal with the drama or maybe you never will. I just wish you the best of luck with this.J from Irelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04358890639197418489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-53281711816301107092009-06-01T10:42:18.599-07:002009-06-01T10:42:18.599-07:00I hope getting that out (even if your mom doesn't ...I hope getting that out (even if your mom doesn't read it) made you feel a little better. <br />Eventually we get to the point where we realize we can't change the past, and that the people who hurt us probably won't change. It's not an easy place to be, but it makes moving on just a little bit easier.<br />Good for you for standing up for yourself by limiting contact with her. You obviously Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13305997189254473548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-29649993575705468722009-06-01T09:47:51.963-07:002009-06-01T09:47:51.963-07:00You know, some people are just not meant to be par...You know, some people are just not meant to be parents. That's not your fault. You just do your own thing and if she comes around, great, but if not- her loss. <br /><br />Good luck.Hayleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15182755801738614449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-89214586983719799332009-06-01T09:42:00.195-07:002009-06-01T09:42:00.195-07:00You're better than you know. Your mom and sis...You're better than you know. Your mom and sister sound like they haven't grown up and have no intentions to at the moment. My best advise, for what it's worth, is to live with the love you have now with your family members who are willing to give it freely & openly, when your mom and sister are ready to really love you I hope it's not too late.Carrie @carrieloveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10862082515784146373noreply@blogger.com