tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post445237317466947546..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: NumbHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-6334371237285677322009-02-22T11:40:00.000-08:002009-02-22T11:40:00.000-08:00My husband is an addict, too. I am a control freak...My husband is an addict, too. I am a control freak, as well. The single hardest thing for me is that I cannot do this for him. I cannot work his program. I cannot love him clean. I felt so much peace when I came to the realization (and accepted) that I cannot control his addiction. All I can do is be vigilant for signs of use...to protect our daughter. There will come a time when you will not Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14289752077071805018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-79006010629471684212009-02-17T10:46:00.000-08:002009-02-17T10:46:00.000-08:00You need to get yourself to Al-Anon ASAP!!www.alan...You need to get yourself to Al-Anon ASAP!!<BR/><BR/><BR/>www.alanon.orgMrs. Casehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019377557104114920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-6144974839450123302009-02-17T04:30:00.000-08:002009-02-17T04:30:00.000-08:00Helping someone to overcome an addiction is one of...Helping someone to overcome an addiction is one of the most painful things that one can do it seems. I've battled my deamons in the past with drugs (not pills but more illegal stuff) and its hard to trust people who have done things like that.<BR/><BR/>Maybe for you this will just take a long time and its amazing that your husband has been able to overcome his illness and be a father to your Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-85462098132108835692009-02-16T12:14:00.000-08:002009-02-16T12:14:00.000-08:00I'm going to nth what Mr. Lady said - go to al-ano...I'm going to nth what Mr. Lady said - go to al-anon. <BR/><BR/>I did something very similar, and worse, with an ex-boyfriend that was on meth. It took me a long time to figure out that what is their problem is THEIR problem, not mine. MY problem is my reaction to it.<BR/><BR/>GO TO AL-ANON. Get help for yourself.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01826882343411931504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-4589472758394166662009-02-16T10:13:00.000-08:002009-02-16T10:13:00.000-08:00agree with Mr Lady. take the advice. get free from...agree with Mr Lady. take the advice. get free from this fear. it won't help you. stay the course for yourself, for your marriage and for your child. you can do it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-56109883385121207122009-02-16T00:29:00.000-08:002009-02-16T00:29:00.000-08:00Mr Lady is right, get thee to al-anon. You aren't ...Mr Lady is right, get thee to al-anon. You aren't wrong in feeling the way you do and others who in the same position will help. I think your marriage depends on it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-75754012358045636612009-02-15T23:03:00.000-08:002009-02-15T23:03:00.000-08:00I think it will help if you just keep reminding yo...I think it will help if you just keep reminding yourself that your husband has an illness. That's what he has-- and illness. Not a desire to betray you. Not a lack of care for his family. <BR/><BR/>His body and his brain are made such that when he ingests a certain substance, he becomes addicted. All right. This is true of lots of people. Smokers, for instance. Have you ever watched a smoker try Jaelithehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12081888212421953409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-58575039046510213272009-02-15T20:45:00.000-08:002009-02-15T20:45:00.000-08:00Someone close to me is going through this right no...Someone close to me is going through this right now. The story is so similar that you could be her. <BR/><BR/>If you are, I want you to know that you are loved. That you're not alone. That there are lots and lots of people in your life who are willing to help you and your child get through this. All you have to do is ask, and we'll be here. We won't judge you or blame you, because we know Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-49198453841833984412009-02-15T19:56:00.000-08:002009-02-15T19:56:00.000-08:00Thank god for Mr. Lady! Truly! You are one spot on...Thank god for Mr. Lady! Truly! You are one spot on supportive, wise commenter. Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-32269391459472386112009-02-15T19:12:00.000-08:002009-02-15T19:12:00.000-08:00Pumpkin, you are being a co-dependent. That's not...Pumpkin, you are being a co-dependent. That's not necessarily a bad thing, it's just what it is. You need to go to Al-Anon. Period. Right now. Tonight if you can. You have to find a way to detach from this, and that's what al-anon is for. The second you start checking pupils, looking through bags, smelling breath (in my case) etc, you've lost control of it.<BR/><BR/>You'll hate it the first Mr Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09998773078408832376noreply@blogger.com