tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post4764245021413801590..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: Babies Having BabiesHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger57125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-55279750210638164212010-03-02T07:35:43.328-08:002010-03-02T07:35:43.328-08:00could some1 give me a website were i can c about h...could some1 give me a website were i can c about how i can have a baby as i lost my wee girl wen she was 6months old and i cnt ave anymore as i lost my womb after i give birth 2 er .i would love 2 ave a baby i love kids they r great .please sum1 HELP me wat u call them woman who carries the baby 4 uAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-46945324411767585092010-03-02T07:29:54.045-08:002010-03-02T07:29:54.045-08:00i got pregant wen i was 14 years old and i had my ...i got pregant wen i was 14 years old and i had my baby girl wen i was 15 year old i really enjoyed becomin a mother its the best thing that ever happened 2 meAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-47200850416851875012009-05-06T22:04:00.000-07:002009-05-06T22:04:00.000-07:00Wow, can anyone smell the judgment? Ouch! You seem...Wow, can anyone smell the judgment? Ouch! You seem like a girl that was never on welfare from all the snap judgements about people sucking it out of the taxes we all pay to support welfare programs. I grew up on welfare, and trust me, we needed every penny and every foostamp, which wasn't all that much. My best friend from highschool recently had a baby out of wedlock. Like your friend, she was Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-80628242852339617182009-03-23T14:22:00.000-07:002009-03-23T14:22:00.000-07:00Oh boy. This one really lights a fire under me, b...Oh boy. This one really lights a fire under me, but I'm going to play nice.<BR/><BR/>I was 21 and had been dating a guy for 3 years. We loved each other and had discussed getting married, but we knew we had the committment without the piece of paper and wanted to hold off for awhile. I was on birth control and I got pregnant. I took it at the same time every day, I didn't screw it up with Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-20496796518945755362009-03-21T18:19:00.000-07:002009-03-21T18:19:00.000-07:00I'm always amused when people say your economic si...I'm always amused when people say your economic situation and age doesn't define what kind of a parent you are. Age, as a number, may not define parenting skills, but maturity sure does. I don't know many teenagers that are mature enough to parent. <BR/><BR/>And your finances don't have an effect on your parenting? Are you kidding me? You think someone can be a good mother when they're stressing The Grown Up Teenagerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10530685677158320049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-63283699042079177052009-03-21T04:46:00.000-07:002009-03-21T04:46:00.000-07:00I believe that yes, this is a safe place to vent. ...I believe that yes, this is a safe place to vent. However it is not a place where people are not allowed to disagree with posted commentary. Especially about very serious and personal topics like children and when or if to have them.<BR/><BR/>The tone and writing of this post is very emotionally charged and highly opinionated and well...people are going to react to writing like that strongly. I Loralee Choatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16055102094371755499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-60367113700855440412009-03-20T09:53:00.000-07:002009-03-20T09:53:00.000-07:00It's strange how judgmental people can be. I was 2...It's strange how judgmental people can be. I was 20 when I became pregnant and was on the receiving end of many rude comments. I'm 23 now with number two on the way and people say cruel things about me when out and about with my daughter and beginning-to-show belly. No one stops to think that maybe this was a planned pregnancy. No one thinks that maybe young people can be responsible. I got Jolly Johnstonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05384057087988631020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-57119052527715429012009-03-19T19:08:00.000-07:002009-03-19T19:08:00.000-07:00I have adopted 5 kids from foster care. 5 kids who...I have adopted 5 kids from foster care. 5 kids whose parents weren't married, had no means of support, who thought they had a right to be parents. 5 kids who have emotional problems from being abused. 5 kids who have developmental delays because birth mom drank and/or took drugs. Personally, if you're too young or stupid to use birth control when you have no means to support a baby, you&#Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-62328937461337718232009-03-19T10:12:00.000-07:002009-03-19T10:12:00.000-07:00Anonymus, It seems like a lot of people are postin...Anonymus, <BR/><BR/>It seems like a lot of people are posting comments saying they disagree with your post. I sympathize with your viewpoint and I agree with you. <BR/><BR/>I especially understand your feelings where your mother and the other girl are concerned. It is difficult to watch your parents support other people in decisions knowing they would never give you the same support. <BR/><BR/>I Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03580325675343017655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-66681348318099190122009-03-18T14:09:00.000-07:002009-03-18T14:09:00.000-07:00To the OP - I totally understand what you are sayi...To the OP - I totally understand what you are saying and I agree with you 110%. I have also seen many of my friends and family have babies because they were too irresponsible to use birth control properly or at all. In fact, I know more people who have had kids "by accident" than those who have properly planned for it.<BR/> <BR/>Don't feel too bad about all of the negative comments from other Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-76867892265650658082009-03-18T07:04:00.000-07:002009-03-18T07:04:00.000-07:00I believe this space is for expressing things that...I believe this space is for expressing things that trouble your soul.<BR/><BR/>My impression of the original post was that she was frustrated with people who "could not afford birth control" having children that taxpayers would support, or marriages that would not have occurred except for the baby. <BR/><BR/>I feel frustration with the glamorization of young and unwed mothers. I wish that thereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-23472490983583494522009-03-17T19:24:00.000-07:002009-03-17T19:24:00.000-07:00Also long-time reader and until today non-commente...Also long-time reader and until today non-commenter, but here's the thing, regardless of how the OP came across, she's right in that she ought to be able to vent her feelings without being attacked. <BR/><BR/>I think that her original post wasn't about mature non-wed adults who choose to have a baby, or people who have had birth control not, well, control things. I think it was about people who Overflowing Brainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11424131699024802462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-45879728024016050682009-03-17T15:30:00.000-07:002009-03-17T15:30:00.000-07:00A few things:First, maybe she was raped, or isn't ...A few things:<BR/><BR/>First, maybe she was raped, or isn't sure if what happened was rape or not (so many of us aren't sure, but I assure you that if you think that, you were)...and maybe she just didn't tell YOU or YOUR MOTHER of the circumstances of her conception. After all, it's not your business.<BR/><BR/>Second, I got pregnant at 17. I was personally attacked verbally more than I can sugaredharpyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01851172202910965571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-78338435567074601812009-03-17T13:38:00.000-07:002009-03-17T13:38:00.000-07:00I was married at 20. Had a baby at 22. Great. Now ...I was married at 20. Had a baby at 22. Great. Now because I was married and had a great job and the finances to support the baby, it was a good idea? NOPE! Did I or my husband know what we were doing? Nope!!!!! Three kids later we're still figuring it out. We're just protected from societal judgment...unless I got to the mall myself, then people will be ultra rude to me and my kids because they Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-81061758965130371292009-03-17T11:41:00.000-07:002009-03-17T11:41:00.000-07:00Anonymous 7:32- I agree, I think it's those people...Anonymous 7:32- I agree, I think it's those people that the OP has a problem with. And for the record? So do I.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-66770544135843901812009-03-17T10:53:00.000-07:002009-03-17T10:53:00.000-07:00I got pregnant when I was 18 and unwed. I was just...I got pregnant when I was 18 and unwed. I was just stupid, and not thinking at all. I didn't get pregnant on purpose and I NEVER wanted kids. But I am so glad I was so stupid. I would have never had an abortion. I would have given her up for adoption first but thankfully I was able to get it together enough to raise her. I am not with the "baby daddy" , he knows about her but didn't want to be Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-55670726987707258072009-03-17T09:45:00.000-07:002009-03-17T09:45:00.000-07:00It sounds to me that this poster may be more upset...It sounds to me that this poster may be more upset by the way her mother is reacting to this girl's pregnancy when her mom might have been very judgmental in the past. That in itself would gall me and I can undestand why it does the poster. And it can also be irritating when someone does something that appears irresponsible and yet gets a pat on the back for it anyway. <BR/><BR/>All I can say to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-41091445263246565372009-03-17T08:14:00.000-07:002009-03-17T08:14:00.000-07:00This is the first time I've read this blog and I j...This is the first time I've read this blog and I just had to comment. I was 22 and unwed when I found out I was pregnant. I was on the pill and it didn't work. My boyfriend and I were already planning to get married (and now we have been for 6 years). Not everyone is in this same situation or is responsible enough to make a good home for a child, but just because, at this moment, your friend Amy E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16534540910456436784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-3898284407835530002009-03-17T08:11:00.000-07:002009-03-17T08:11:00.000-07:00Wow, so incredibly judgemental... I don't even kno...Wow, so incredibly judgemental... I don't even know what to say! Just know that not ALL people who have "babies out of wedlock" are terrible-good-for-nothing-without-health-insurance type of people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-84462950911639061692009-03-17T07:32:00.000-07:002009-03-17T07:32:00.000-07:00I think what the poster objects to is the fact tha...I think what the poster objects to is the fact that people are "choosing" (by not taking the appropriate precautions)to have children when they are young and unmarried and do not know the first thing about raising a child. I agree with some of the previous that it depends on the individual. Some women at 18 have babies and are great mothers that raise their children right. <BR/>But others aren't Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-25701170920417194932009-03-17T07:26:00.000-07:002009-03-17T07:26:00.000-07:00From OP: Is this not a place where people can come...From OP: Is this not a place where people can come to vent their feelings? I guess I should have expected to only get ridiculed for feeling the way that I do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-2317589743479104822009-03-17T07:19:00.000-07:002009-03-17T07:19:00.000-07:00I know a lot of people (including my own sister) w...I know a lot of people (including my own sister) who waited to have babies, planned them, married and are AWFUL parents. I mean not just a little bit rubbish, but truly awful parents.<BR/><BR/>Age is not a good indicator of somebody's ability to mother, neither is their economic status. I'm a single mother on benefits (welfare to you guys) but I'm also doing a degree to become a teacher in the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-25267521353171767322009-03-17T06:43:00.000-07:002009-03-17T06:43:00.000-07:00This post is making me too angry to be polite, so ...This post is making me too angry to be polite, so I'll keep it short. I think there is far greater value in not judging people and subsidizing a healthy community for those who are in the most need than saving my hard earned tax dollars or property taxes and coming off as a judgemental jerk. <BR/><BR/>Here's some advice: don't go to the baby showers, don't pretend to be her friend...you are Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-87381330940547100742009-03-17T05:18:00.001-07:002009-03-17T05:18:00.001-07:00From OP to Anonymous at 5:03am - I could not agree...From OP to Anonymous at 5:03am - I could not agree with you more!!! When I was living on my own and struggling I qualified for Food Stamps but refused them because it made me feel guilty. It is sad that we have to pay the way for everyone else, I think that is the one thing that is wrong with America these days!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-28783093176154803942009-03-17T05:18:00.000-07:002009-03-17T05:18:00.000-07:00I've been reading The Basement for a while, but th...I've been reading The Basement for a while, but this is the first time I've commented.<BR/>I'm eighteen, and I have a three month old son. I'm (shock horror!) not married, although I do live with my partner in a committed relationship. Our son was conceived by accident, three months into the relationship, and while I was on the Pill. You talk about "quietly taking care of the problem": since Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com