tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post4908627697697749491..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: No Pregnancy GlowHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-42998634543570478212009-03-31T21:31:00.000-07:002009-03-31T21:31:00.000-07:00I feel for where you're at. We were done with dia...I feel for where you're at. We were done with diaper bags and just finding our groove as a family of 4 when our unplanned (and carefully avoided!) #3 came along. I cried...I bawled...I cursed. It took me a month before I could share the devastating news with family. And several months before I could tell anyone else. And I was more than half-way through the pregnancy before the acceptance Mbdiamondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11001369595331195115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-89349362522722724442008-02-14T11:24:00.000-08:002008-02-14T11:24:00.000-08:00To the original anonymous...I haven't read all the...To the original anonymous...<BR/><BR/>I haven't read all the comments because I can't deal with all the bitchery.<BR/><BR/>That being said, congratulations! And also, oh, I have been where you are and I know it sucks donkey balls.<BR/><BR/>Twins are a blessing, as everyone and their mother feels compelled to tell you, but they also can feel like a big smack in the face from God when you already Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08385300459967135657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-64181196595187759252008-02-09T05:35:00.000-08:002008-02-09T05:35:00.000-08:00On birth control pills still, I used to take Minul...On birth control pills still, I used to take Minulet and hypricum tea interferes with its effectiveness. It is clearly printed only I'd never realy bothered to read the whole thing. Then I did and was very glad I was never one for hypericum tea. Antibiotics may interfere as well. Just so you all know.<BR/><BR/>As for abortion, I personally se nothing wrong with it if that's what the family feel Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-5528832051413491402008-02-03T12:13:00.000-08:002008-02-03T12:13:00.000-08:00Ok, first of all, do not listen to anyone who trie...Ok, first of all, do not listen to anyone who tries to demean you, your feelings or your choices. PDD is a hormonal, neurological and biological response which occurs sometimes. Anyone who judges you here either had never experienced it, is ignorant about the medical facts surrounding it, or for whatever reason, feels obliged to take an "anonomous" moral high horse with a total stranger. WhichAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-29487757156510072012008-01-19T23:08:00.000-08:002008-01-19T23:08:00.000-08:00P.S. If you really can't afford a maid service, I ...P.S. If you really can't afford a maid service, I bet if you put up a "donate" button on your blog your readers would make it happen.Jaelithehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12081888212421953409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-17413210755997694922008-01-19T23:05:00.000-08:002008-01-19T23:05:00.000-08:00My one and only child (so far) was a really terrib...My one and only child (so far) was a really terrible sleeper, and my fear of experiencing the same severe sleep deprivation if I should happen to have another child with the same problem is one of the main reasons I haven't had another baby yet, even though part of me really wants to. Going six months averaging 3-4 hours of interrupted sleep each night, without a single full nights' sleep during Jaelithehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12081888212421953409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-57714111264597820382008-01-18T10:11:00.000-08:002008-01-18T10:11:00.000-08:00I hummed and hawed about writing this in this spac...I hummed and hawed about writing this in this space but, as it is a related topic, and might help someone, I decided to go ahead. <BR/><BR/>Some oral contraceptives (birth control pills) need to be taken at the same time every day to be effective. If you are off by any amount of time, e.g. hours, you should consider yourself unprotected and use an alternate / additional contraceptive for a periodAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-46924238029012518552008-01-18T09:35:00.000-08:002008-01-18T09:35:00.000-08:00First of all a big thank you to HBM for creating t...First of all a big thank you to HBM for creating this venue for all of us to get things off our chest and to support each other. Also, a big thank you to all the wise and supportive posters who provide support, shared / related experiences and insight.<BR/><BR/>A few simple truths as I know them:<BR/>People cope better when they feel supported. You don't have to agree with someone in order to be Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-80294809987448215802008-01-17T22:21:00.000-08:002008-01-17T22:21:00.000-08:00Wow. I have twins and found out I was carrying TW...Wow. I have twins and found out I was carrying TWO when my daughter was 9 months old so I FEEL YOUR PAIN. :-) I was so upset and everyone else around me was like "what is your problem". Get help, get a doula, read lots of books and by jeebus if you need a glass of wine at night drink it - better than kicking the @#$# out of your husband like you might want to! ;-)<BR/><BR/>Good luck. All I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-24039768972080194012008-01-16T18:59:00.000-08:002008-01-16T18:59:00.000-08:00I'm sorry this is so hard for you. It's SO hard t...I'm sorry this is so hard for you. It's SO hard to be 'done' and then have a surprise. It's hard to have your vision of the rest of your life change. It's hard to 'look forward' to all the hardships of pregnancy and small babies (and to remember the good things). And especially when your last pg was so difficult for you. And twins must be so much more overwhelming. I really wish the best Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-19384783161011460692008-01-15T05:44:00.000-08:002008-01-15T05:44:00.000-08:00They say we have choice. But look at all of us who...They say we have choice. But look at all of us who got pregnant on birth control despite our attempts to control our lives.<BR/><BR/>I would so it is not so wrong to the above question. I had an unplanned, unwanted child and I regret my choice every day of my life.<BR/><BR/>Check out the book Soul Crisis, for a married woman with two children and plenty of money and security who chose abortion Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-66820009663848841032008-01-14T20:38:00.000-08:002008-01-14T20:38:00.000-08:00To support the poster, they say pills are 99% effe...To support the poster, they say pills are 99% effective, but all my friends got pregnant on the pill! It was not your fault.<BR/><BR/>One pharmacist told me that pills are 99% effective only if it is the right dose for you! You could be more fertile than average, and need a different pill (I was told).<BR/><BR/>A question I would like to ask everyone (since I am not a mother and don't know) is Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-33615767333126025062008-01-14T18:13:00.000-08:002008-01-14T18:13:00.000-08:00Okay, whoa.First of all, anonymous poster: I am so...Okay, whoa.<BR/><BR/>First of all, anonymous poster: I am so sorry that the comments got a bit carried away. When these things happen, I try to think of it as if an outspoken friend had said something that we don't want to hear - expressing an opinion that we don't like, but an opinion nonetheless. Which is why I try to avoid deleting comments - so that everyone gets the flavor of the full (and Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-11458774545196713012008-01-14T17:25:00.000-08:002008-01-14T17:25:00.000-08:00To anonymous,I DID NOT miss one single pill. I am...To anonymous,<BR/><BR/>I DID NOT miss one single pill. I am a SAHM in an upper middle class neigborhood. I have plenty of money and room for these babies. I am going to deal with it.<BR/><BR/>Your comments make me regret posting here. I was having a terrible day when I wrote to bad mother and I needed to vent because I cannot share my feelings with family members who do not know the extent of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-47620957212868570232008-01-14T17:14:00.000-08:002008-01-14T17:14:00.000-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07567282327927356266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-27502225823958673482008-01-14T13:10:00.000-08:002008-01-14T13:10:00.000-08:00Pippa~~~ Hopefully, it gives her a dose of reality...Pippa~~~ Hopefully, it gives her a dose of reality. No one is trying to beat the poster down. No one CAN correct her life choices except for her. It seems as if she is not trying to do that.<BR/><BR/>You can assume my comments were instruction. They were not. The poster came to a public Blog, aired her story and asked for comments. I gave one. Somehow, for you, that translated into me bashing theAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-6998398881296888792008-01-14T11:53:00.000-08:002008-01-14T11:53:00.000-08:00I noticed that you didn't answer my question. What...I noticed that you didn't answer my question. What would you have told me to do? My blog entries from 3 years ago would have looked much like this one. And I'd done every possible thing in my power to NOT have more children.<BR/><BR/>I could only ASSUME you were perfect because of your desire to correct this poster's life choices. Lots of people don't like infants, including mothers of several Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01702880935830789894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-76191721697100697572008-01-14T11:17:00.000-08:002008-01-14T11:17:00.000-08:00To Pippa~~~ How do you know whether or not I have ...To Pippa~~~ How do you know whether or not I have made mistakes, and how I chose to live with the ramifications? I have certainly made my share of mistakes. However, I have tried to deal with them in a mature and thoughtful manner, starting by not becoming pregnant again and again if overwhelmed already. <BR/><BR/>The poster is NOT a child. If she truly did not want to become pregnant once more Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-5799234880597837532008-01-14T06:47:00.000-08:002008-01-14T06:47:00.000-08:00To the last Anonymous...I was in the same situatio...To the last Anonymous...<BR/><BR/>I was in the same situation only I had three kids, and had been diagnosed with PPD and a helluva lot more. What would you have suggested for me, as I'd already HAD my tubes tied?<BR/><BR/>I'm always amazed at the number of people I see making comments who have never made a mistake and had to live with bigger ramifications than they could have imagined.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01702880935830789894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-66544383732182254082008-01-14T05:46:00.000-08:002008-01-14T05:46:00.000-08:00Wow. I will probably get blown away by a hail of a...Wow. <BR/>I will probably get blown away by a hail of angry comments, but all I can say is.......you are a grown woman, already a mother of 2, already diagnosed with PPD, and you "miss a single pill" and then bemoan the fact that you got pregnant. Time to start taking some responsibility for your actions and stop crying about the results.<BR/><BR/>Get yourself to a doctor, get on some appropriateAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-61529469842455947302008-01-13T22:23:00.000-08:002008-01-13T22:23:00.000-08:00I know this may not sound like much help but I do ...I know this may not sound like much help but I do understand where you are and have been. I had two small children ages 5 & 2 when I found out that in very short time I would be having triplets (yes concieved on birth control). Let me say this, it can be done and you will survive. I wish I could be more consoling but I truly seem to be at a loss for the right words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-29650413275582007642008-01-13T12:30:00.000-08:002008-01-13T12:30:00.000-08:00Twins!! Congratulations.It will be a hard slog but...Twins!! Congratulations.<BR/><BR/>It will be a hard slog but you can do it. Double the work but double the rewards also.<BR/><BR/>We have twins in our family. One of the secrets is be organised and accept help. <BR/><BR/>Every offer of help that comes your way, seize on it and take advantage of it.merinzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01950053039147788819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-34134812664835056032008-01-12T11:35:00.000-08:002008-01-12T11:35:00.000-08:00My surprise #3 (conceived in spite of my IUD) will...My surprise #3 (conceived in spite of my IUD) will arrive in less than three weeks. I can identify with so much of what you wrote, and while I know I will love this unexpected baby, I don't relish the imminent upheaval and its effects on my sanity.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you, and wishing us both luck.Julie Marshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05386446012443269817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-38699779341771368182008-01-11T19:16:00.000-08:002008-01-11T19:16:00.000-08:00No, No, No, last commenter! You can't know what yo...No, No, No, last commenter! You can't know what your twins will turn out like, if you have them, and you have to be prepared to have and love and raise them even if they turn out to be criminals, psychopaths, mental patients, of MacDonald's burgerflippers. What if you have them at such great cost to your health and sanity and they turn out to be, say, sleazy used car salesmen? Then what? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-54512213166495298932008-01-11T18:06:00.000-08:002008-01-11T18:06:00.000-08:00Having people to talk to--here--will be a great he...Having people to talk to--here--will be a great help to you. How many of us have had unplanned pregnancies? (three of five for me)<BR/><BR/>What you're facing is tough. You already know that. Talk to this group, take care of yourself and try to remember this too shall pass.<BR/><BR/>I remember when I learned I was pregnant with my third son. Our income was about $70 a week, and we had no health Granny Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01129064020727041161noreply@blogger.com