tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post5485501927727666431..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: I Wish I Never Married YouHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-77772322999827363012010-08-21T19:53:57.352-07:002010-08-21T19:53:57.352-07:00I would like to aim a spotlight on what was said a...I would like to aim a spotlight on what was said about the "nice" guys who succumb to video game addictions. I dated (I had thoughts of marrying, God help me) a very sweet, very nice, broke, chivalrous guy. He turned into a complete momma's boy who left a mess in his wake when we lived together for those 6 horrible months. He spent his time playing WoW, borrowed money from me to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-23072832158706639262010-08-19T14:14:53.590-07:002010-08-19T14:14:53.590-07:00You are an amazing person with a luminous spirit. ...You are an amazing person with a luminous spirit. Set your intention for what you want in your life and repeat it every day (i.e. My intention is to live a compassionate life with a compassionate partner). . . and ask that it happen for the "greater good" and let go of the attachment to the outcome (i.e.and I want to look just like this . . .). I know it sounds trite and simple, but Becky Aud-Jennisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08941299091599695495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-47257360366711836692010-08-19T14:03:47.817-07:002010-08-19T14:03:47.817-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Becky Aud-Jennisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08941299091599695495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-8544394545465822202010-08-08T09:27:35.479-07:002010-08-08T09:27:35.479-07:00Like many other commenters, my details are a littl...Like many other commenters, my details are a little different but I'm at the same point in my marriage. I feel trapped at this point. And can't believe that I am in this position but here I am. It makes me feel so hopeless when I realize I will probably spend the rest of my life without love and attention from my 'partner" in life who has turned out to be anything but my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-77136393326726000922010-08-06T20:45:58.312-07:002010-08-06T20:45:58.312-07:00*sniff sniff* you life doesn't sound easy and ...*sniff sniff* you life doesn't sound easy and I'm sorry. You deserve so much better in life. GI applaud your courage to walk away. You GO GIRL! ood luck to you!Chivonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-54302679383016231752010-08-06T16:18:34.844-07:002010-08-06T16:18:34.844-07:00Know the Feeling 14 years and in my case I am not ...Know the Feeling 14 years and in my case I am not ill. I work my ass off and am told I do nothing to help, but yet i do it allAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-38125054136155681682010-08-06T08:59:52.327-07:002010-08-06T08:59:52.327-07:00Michael at first seemed to think the husband was a...Michael at first seemed to think the husband was a classic "bad boy." There is a large contingent of "nice guys" on the Internet who are very vocal about women chasing the "bad boys" and then complaining when the "bad boys" don't make good partners.<br /><br />They have a point, but in this particular case, the WOW addiction tells me the husband in Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-61614101715168408032010-08-05T23:37:09.454-07:002010-08-05T23:37:09.454-07:00Sometimes the men that we are married to are far f...Sometimes the men that we are married to are far from the men that we married. In my case it took a little less than a year. Upon his insistance, I got pregnant. Then came the pregnancy pounds, the baby who stayed sick half of the first year of his life. Then came post-pregnancy complications. Then the surgery and recovery. I keep thinking the man I married could still be in there. Somewhere. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-8222326297572391972010-08-05T20:00:51.176-07:002010-08-05T20:00:51.176-07:00Why are there so many of us who can tell this stor...Why are there so many of us who can tell this story, change a few minor details, put our names at the bottom (or not) and call it our own? This is sad as a story by itself. Every single woman in the world who can tell this story as her own makes it that much sadder. Honestly, I, like many other women who have commented here, thought mine was the only story like this. <br /><br />I'm sorry forAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-57368861000869803532010-08-05T14:38:39.860-07:002010-08-05T14:38:39.860-07:00Thank you to the posters on this board who are tol...Thank you to the posters on this board who are tolerant of different views - when I re-read my comments, I hope they don't sound too harsh. Women certainly don't have a monopoly on poor mate selection, men just reward a different set of poor behavior. I think that men, however are much quicker to end things while women make excuses for jerks for years. When a child enters in, things Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03751645504590717974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-46698580852989432222010-08-05T09:24:22.250-07:002010-08-05T09:24:22.250-07:00Granted I have only been married for a year, but I...Granted I have only been married for a year, but I think you're underestimating yourself when you display such anger towards the one you love. Is the main issue that the level of respect and care has diminished? Wss he a kind man when you were dating, and now he's just given up? Perhaps he was looking for the same level of attention from you, that he was getting from his mother. And Laurienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-26222454154104640472010-08-05T02:52:40.982-07:002010-08-05T02:52:40.982-07:00I didn't think anyone else knew someone like t...I didn't think anyone else knew someone like this. I am thankful I am not married to him, but I go through the same thoughts when I try to argue why Starcraft is not as important as playing with your son on the weekends.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-21582991374953976842010-08-04T17:04:28.960-07:002010-08-04T17:04:28.960-07:00I love that a guy stepped up and gave his two-cent...I love that a guy stepped up and gave his two-cents. We may agree with him or not, but you have to admit that Michael has a point. How many times did I throw away a perfectly good guy for some dumb shit? (Like my EX.) Augh...x o x o u ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09519105373985656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-28055922227173112082010-08-04T10:55:29.420-07:002010-08-04T10:55:29.420-07:00There's always a light at the end of the tunne...There's always a light at the end of the tunnel - don't lose hope...you can survive..because if you can't, why you still exist until now?Dr. Greg Cynaumonhttp://theamazingdrgreg.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-17480320102110890062010-08-03T19:48:43.820-07:002010-08-03T19:48:43.820-07:00Very good point Michael, thank you for sharing. U...Very good point Michael, thank you for sharing. Us women should never put up with any of that in the first place. It seems to be our nature though to be forgiving and give people second chances, and put ourselves second (or 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th...). We naturally put others before ourselves and men naturally do the opposite (it seems). We just have to find some way to comprimise. Love you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-77058254367665162832010-08-03T18:39:01.135-07:002010-08-03T18:39:01.135-07:00Whoever wrote this, THANK YOU for sharing. I felt...Whoever wrote this, THANK YOU for sharing. I felt so alone in my awful journey with a man I was with (thankfully only for 3 years) but, it felt like a lifetime. My son is now 2, and the life I have now is full of happiness and hope, wheres before it was a never-ending bucket of tears and hopelessness.<br /><br />Good luck with everything. You deserve to be happy, too!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16052690213551099882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-88445678809156209662010-08-03T18:36:46.784-07:002010-08-03T18:36:46.784-07:00You are not alone in your situation. I'm ther...You are not alone in your situation. I'm there too. I wish for you the strength and clarity to make the best decision for you and your son.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-63634938979273754972010-08-03T12:49:15.147-07:002010-08-03T12:49:15.147-07:00Wow, this hit so close to home. It made me cry, ma...Wow, this hit so close to home. It made me cry, made me feel less alone, made me angry that another child and woman were being hurt like this.<br />I am on my way to divorce. I do it all, pretty much now, so I need get out of the situation and work on our healing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-31791955701212074672010-08-03T12:47:24.936-07:002010-08-03T12:47:24.936-07:00Ladies, I can relate. But don't despair. The...Ladies, I can relate. But don't despair. There is a way out. I hope you will read the story I am posting at www.afacebookstory-oneclickaway.blogspot.com. I too am thankful for the children but keep wondering "What if I were still with him?" I hope you will take a peek, follow and find out what happened to me. <br /><br />ElizabethEGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10305108595305238549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-2328592244034960222010-08-03T11:58:32.723-07:002010-08-03T11:58:32.723-07:00I think I wrote this. Oops, no...you do a lot more...I think I wrote this. Oops, no...you do a lot more apologizing than I do. How nice of you.<br /><br />Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-9332718550625232672010-08-03T11:25:07.831-07:002010-08-03T11:25:07.831-07:00A guy who spends his honeymoon with his mother wat...A guy who spends his honeymoon with his mother watching movies has given you plenty of clues earlier that he is a tool. He wasn't taken over by pod people the day of his marrige. I do sympathize with your distress - I just see this pattern repeated over and over again. The second part of the pattern usually involves sticking with the guy for way too long and making excuses for him. Women Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03751645504590717974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-59977814376929357882010-08-03T08:25:10.186-07:002010-08-03T08:25:10.186-07:00To Michael and the poster who agrees with him - yo...To Michael and the poster who agrees with him - you have no idea that the husband started out as a "tool." Addictions develop over time. People change, and not always for the better. <br /><br />To the original poster - RUN, don't walk, to the nearest counselor. Ask him to come if you want, but if he won't, you'll still benefit and get stronger faster if you go. I wouldAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-35320141100943826882010-08-03T07:49:53.707-07:002010-08-03T07:49:53.707-07:00Wow, I'm a woman, and I have to admit, Michael...Wow, I'm a woman, and I have to admit, Michael is 100% right. Granted I'm not married, I'm a single woman in my late 20's, but I've seen this pattern in many of my friends, I see the signs that Michael has pointed out and avoid them, call me picky but I'd rather have my freedom and independence rather than be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.<Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-8197112527453949092010-08-03T06:51:35.942-07:002010-08-03T06:51:35.942-07:00OK - here is one guy's perspective
It may sou...OK - here is one guy's perspective <br />It may sound harsh, but that's the way it is.<br />That's what you and many other women get for the horrible choices you make when young about what's attractive about a guy. Bad boy = attractive; unavailable = I've got to have him; treats me like shit = I really need him now; doesn't treat anyone with respect = I bet I can change Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03751645504590717974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-7673779396271086552010-08-03T03:21:59.900-07:002010-08-03T03:21:59.900-07:00I would advise you to just DUMP the immature loser...I would advise you to just DUMP the immature loser, but in the event you want to give it one more go, DEMAND-do not request--counselling to commence within a week's time. If he balks, toss his ass out. <br /><br />There is a distinct serenity in living without a whining WoW addict. The electricity bill will go down, too. Don't rush into a new relationship, at least not a "live in&Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com