tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post5871411160841006082..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: In A HeartbeatHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-75338353916814308722010-01-11T09:05:03.344-08:002010-01-11T09:05:03.344-08:00I'm sorry for what you have been through. I co...I'm sorry for what you have been through. I could've written this piece myself, only my loss was at 37 weeks. Nonetheless, the loss of a baby is the worst thing imaginable and nobody can get through it unscathed. <br />Your feelings of anger, jealousy and hatred are normal. It wouldn't be normal if you didn't feel that way.<br />I wish you lots of luck in the future, I hope all ofAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-44996335968534753572009-12-26T02:29:39.981-08:002009-12-26T02:29:39.981-08:00I have also been there. What I have found is that...I have also been there. What I have found is that when you open your heart about it, you realize that it happens so much more than you think.<br /><br />Years later, I still think about THAT baby, and what might have been, but then, I realize what would not be..and then it makes sense.<br /><br />It doesn't hurt less, but the reasons become clearer. I hope you can look back someday and know Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-58925751387049730202009-12-18T19:06:11.379-08:002009-12-18T19:06:11.379-08:00Ironically, October 15th is the day I found out ab...Ironically, October 15th is the day I found out about my miscarriage. I want to thank everyone for their comments and support. It helps a lot to read so many other women understand how I feel and what I went through.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-32223404147877709522009-12-17T07:22:01.583-08:002009-12-17T07:22:01.583-08:00I too have had two miscarriages. It's really h...I too have had two miscarriages. It's really hard, especially because two other family members where pregnant at the same time. <br /><br />All I can suggest is to talk about it, if and when you can. Cry about the baby, get angry at your loss. You need to grieve just like you would at someone's passing. After all, it is someone's passing. <br /><br />I don't hurt after 8 years Our Sentimentshttp://oursentiments.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-791602076194799312009-12-14T14:31:27.238-08:002009-12-14T14:31:27.238-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had two m...I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had two miscarriages; one was earlier this year. I felt all of the feelings that you describe. I am now approaching the time when I would have given birth, and am experiencing again some of the emotions that I thought I'd already moved past. We are trying to conceive again and I'm trying to focus on that, but I still can't help but think of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-76714889858934550912009-12-12T15:57:03.321-08:002009-12-12T15:57:03.321-08:00Oh darling I'm sorry :( I lost twins at 7 wee...Oh darling I'm sorry :( I lost twins at 7 weeks two years ago. My daughter was born on the same day EXACTLY one year later. And I still grieve for my first babies. They are still mine, and it is okay to grieve over them. Nothing heals the pain, and that's alright.<br /><br />I have become a more sensitive person for this experience. I can help others, I can empathize, I can live Rinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-49549876872332756302009-12-10T20:06:41.804-08:002009-12-10T20:06:41.804-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss, and am right there...I'm so sorry for your loss, and am right there with you. It always hurts. I have lost three pregnancies, the last just recently (the day before thanksgiving). I also have a sixteen month old daughter, so am doing my best to be strong for her. it's incredibly difficult, and people's ignorant comments can be horrifying. but you will make it thru. you are not alone.jessicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-68764816543169916312009-12-10T00:24:24.945-08:002009-12-10T00:24:24.945-08:00I've lost 2 babies in miscarriage, and what ha...I've lost 2 babies in miscarriage, and what has often comforted me most was what my grandmother (who I never met, she died long before I was born, but had lost 4 herself, 2 miscarriages and 2 still-births) told my Auntie when she lost a baby, "grieve for your lost wee one, cry for what you've lost, but then turn your face back to the world and hope for another kick at the can."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-10425860821134849012009-12-09T21:34:09.137-08:002009-12-09T21:34:09.137-08:00So sorry for your loss. Just remember, it will get...So sorry for your loss. Just remember, it will get easier, even though it never goes away. I remember every vivid detail of the day I miscarried 2 years ago. And whether or not you have children in the future, you need to grieve this one and take the time to love your husband. It's hard to share in a traumatizing experience, but hopefully it will make you even stronger. I'm glad to hear Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-3480212538981831712009-12-09T19:38:34.469-08:002009-12-09T19:38:34.469-08:00I am so sorry for your loss. I found out at 13 we...I am so sorry for your loss. I found out at 13 weeks I was having twins. What a surprise, then told one baby didn't have a heartbeat. I actually had someone tell me it was better that way because "twins would be too hard". I still grieve everyday for that baby. I will be thinkig good thoughts for you and everyone else who has gone through the pain.Lippyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12434041817638618131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-77482978519299997382009-12-09T11:48:19.846-08:002009-12-09T11:48:19.846-08:00It's been more than three years since I heard ...It's been more than three years since I heard those words at what was supposed to be a routine 20-week appointment. I, too, had been alone. I remember the sobbing and hurt still.<br /><br />You're story made me cry, as do all stories of pregnancy loss.<br /><br />I'm sorry for your loss.Celebrate Woo-Woohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09707970217013836008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-61596993381081953272009-12-09T11:32:26.348-08:002009-12-09T11:32:26.348-08:00I'm thninking of you and praying for you... I...I'm thninking of you and praying for you... I lost my daughter Olivia 8 months ago when I was 6 months pregnant. It was hard and I felt and said everything you did. I would love to reach out to you personally if you needed it... mandylou1016@yahoo.com. One thing I can promise you is that you won't go crazy like you think you might. Let yourself grieve whenever possible and reach outAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-11791955375770884132009-12-09T11:09:32.480-08:002009-12-09T11:09:32.480-08:00Huge hugs to you and your husband (who sounds like...Huge hugs to you and your husband (who sounds like a wonderful man). I heard those same words almost 6 years ago now, when I was 15 weeks along. It is devastating and it still hurts today. Every time I hear of a woman going thru this, I cry. People don't know what to say to you about it either. You get stupid platitudes and bullshit comments and it makes it even more difficult than it should Major Bedheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669161302510096751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-34932371271547916092009-12-09T10:50:15.168-08:002009-12-09T10:50:15.168-08:00I am so sorry. I lost one at 14 weeks, two and a h...I am so sorry. I lost one at 14 weeks, two and a half years ago and one at five weeks this April. I keep thinking, I should be about to be giving birth right about now. But nope.<br /><br />It never goes away, the pain, but it does get more manageable over time. huge hugs to you.Issahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11309906249557761472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-40976589867849662012009-12-09T09:56:20.417-08:002009-12-09T09:56:20.417-08:00I, too, am sorry for your loss. I had 4 of those, ...I, too, am sorry for your loss. I had 4 of those, but also have 2 children.<br /><br />My prayers are with you as you cope.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-47618258243647853552009-12-09T08:47:36.251-08:002009-12-09T08:47:36.251-08:00I am so sorry for your loss. 5 years later and it...I am so sorry for your loss. 5 years later and it still hurts more than I want it to. I send you love and light and peace. My sister heard those words last week (Thursday, December 03/09) and when she is ready I want to share your story with her. <br />Thank you for having the courage to put your words and thoughts out there for all of us to share.Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04210544615668279595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-55926021417424733252009-12-09T04:40:17.757-08:002009-12-09T04:40:17.757-08:00I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a baby at 8 1...I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a baby at 8 1/2 weeks (it only measured 5 weeks) and it broke my heart. I have fertility issues, so this was just another nail in the coffin for my reproductive system. It was the hardest thing I've ever gone through and I highly recommend getting a therapist for awhile. It helped me a lot. I hope you conceive again and have a healthy pregnancy. It Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12090436530747935559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-36324179290218879862009-12-09T03:59:07.659-08:002009-12-09T03:59:07.659-08:00One of my good friends just recently went through ...One of my good friends just recently went through this only she had a stillborn. She told me soon afterward that it would have been less painful for her to have known the baby was gone and to have never seen him at all. I can't even imagine the grief of loosing a child, but you're so lucky to have a supportive husband and a wonderful network of people who care about you.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-37013667614011025772009-12-09T02:29:07.616-08:002009-12-09T02:29:07.616-08:00I'm sorry for your loss. As everyone says it d...I'm sorry for your loss. As everyone says it does get better but you should take the time you need to grieve.Carohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08210823139583056706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-19108378540305363402009-12-09T02:01:01.767-08:002009-12-09T02:01:01.767-08:00I'm so sorry you're going through this. P...I'm so sorry you're going through this. Please give yourself time though. I work in the field of childbirth education and I see the very vast majority of couples achieve successful pregnancies only after two years being off the pill. Please be patient with your body as it relearns how to control it's own hormone levels.Christine Gramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13783180729146518061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-49374336579339809472009-12-08T20:45:08.143-08:002009-12-08T20:45:08.143-08:00I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. It breaks...I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart too. I lost my first baby as well. He would have been 33 years old now. I don't know if he was actually a "he" but that's what I've chosen, in my mind & heart. His name is Eric. I long to see him again, if there is such a thing. My pregnancy with Eric was the reason my husband and I got married... and I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-88759179628971266862009-12-08T19:17:25.572-08:002009-12-08T19:17:25.572-08:00"I'm sorry...we can't find a heartbea..."I'm sorry...we can't find a heartbeat."<br /><br />It has been six and a half years and those words still hurt. <br /><br />It never goes away, but it does get better.<br /><br />I don't know if this will help or not, but my twins are five years old now.Sarah, Goon Squad Sarahhttp://sarahandthegoonsquad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-5170771070748354532009-12-08T18:59:29.629-08:002009-12-08T18:59:29.629-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss. It will get bette...I'm so sorry for your loss. It will get better over time. You will never forget that baby, and you are really the only one who knew him or her (maybe your husband too, but even he would have been a step removed). That's why it's so hard for others to comfort you properly. And, I think every woman who miscarries finds that the world is suddenly filled with pregnant ladies and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-17260783166069722822009-12-08T17:38:08.776-08:002009-12-08T17:38:08.776-08:00Oh, sweetie...I'm sorry for your loss. I know...Oh, sweetie...I'm sorry for your loss. I know that people mean well when they say things like "it was meant to be" and "next time it will work out" but those things always made me hurt more. I needed to greive my loss, and feel that people were mindful that my baby was real..and loved.<br /><br />I vowed to never say those things, ever, to a woman who has lost a baby...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com