tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post6252898723669233862..comments2024-02-21T08:58:09.518-08:00Comments on Her Bad Mother's Basement: I'm Not RealHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-23157606185760380452010-08-02T19:04:16.976-07:002010-08-02T19:04:16.976-07:00You are sooooo not the only woman in the world who...You are sooooo not the only woman in the world who feels like this. I am 29 and I have two kids who I had when I was 18 and 20. I moved all the way across the country from my family 8 years ago and I am sooooooo disconnected from everyone!! I know EXACTLY what you mean. I feel like there really is nobody but my husband who really knows who I am.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-83218155665404625972010-04-27T06:05:50.825-07:002010-04-27T06:05:50.825-07:00I have another suggestion that may seem silly, but...I have another suggestion that may seem silly, but helped me reconnect with myself lately when I was just seeing the mommy side of me... think about what you really enjoyed doing when you "were yourself" back when you were 13. Did you like hiking? art? reading scary stories? listening to or playing music? identify a few of those things and then give yourself permission to do them. I rella12https://www.blogger.com/profile/15892211219274733025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-2656570950427415442010-04-25T19:30:03.337-07:002010-04-25T19:30:03.337-07:00do you think you could try counseling? there are s...do you think you could try counseling? there are some places that will let you do telephone counseling if you can't make it into the office. it can be really tough to make time for yourself when you have kids.<br /><br />i had a discussion with my best friend a while ago about a big decision i was trying to make. i said to her, "i'm scared i'm going to make the wrong decision.&Stone Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01141709907613987429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-56963190173298958372010-04-18T22:18:03.918-07:002010-04-18T22:18:03.918-07:00Thank you for writing this post. It is such a reli...Thank you for writing this post. It is such a relief to know that others feel this way. It is interesting to me that people mention depression...I have been feeling this way for a while and I didn't really think of it as depression, more as an identity crisis (literally!) but maybe that's a clue. <br />I think we all feel disconnected sometimes, but there's a spectrum. Moving must Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-72846171546365955442010-04-17T15:24:49.487-07:002010-04-17T15:24:49.487-07:00I struggle with this too. Sometimes I just feel l...I struggle with this too. Sometimes I just feel like I'm inhabiting a body, floating around and doing things and none of it really connects.<br /><br />One of the best ways I've had of staying in touch with myself is to keep a journal. I often find out things about myself that I had no awareness of when I sat down to write. And when I feel lost and disconnected, sometimes I'll look Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-60797231543578549372010-04-16T09:47:05.354-07:002010-04-16T09:47:05.354-07:00I love this post. I think we all feel this way som...I love this post. I think we all feel this way sometimes, because I think it's a lot of work to really know yourself. I agree with the people who suggested trying new things - blogging, yoga, writing. Beautiful post.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08417356206569429078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-860962305428392672010-04-15T21:44:47.607-07:002010-04-15T21:44:47.607-07:00Wow,you put into words how I feel so much of the t...Wow,you put into words how I feel so much of the time. I think there's a lot of us lost in the woods..maybe we need to start sending out beacons.<br />There is something that you are though, and that's a writer. Do you blog? Maybe you should start even privately. I think you might find yourself in your words.Solcathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06659534772415465463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-22538412684064672382010-04-14T07:25:04.796-07:002010-04-14T07:25:04.796-07:00Perhaps you'll find my suggestion silly, but y...Perhaps you'll find my suggestion silly, but you could start trying to reconnect to your body, for instance with a yoga class ? It helped me a lot when I was mildly depressed. <br />It would be good for you to start doing something (sport, music) just for you, and it could also help you to open to others, but without any pressure. <br /><br />Good luck, I think you're very brave to try toAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-7532794267129608352010-04-13T11:33:53.098-07:002010-04-13T11:33:53.098-07:00No good advice from me, just wanted you to know th...No good advice from me, just wanted you to know that I'm right there with you lost in the woods. Maybe we wre just a few yards away from eachother. I can't see you either... wish I could. I've lost myself too.<br /><br />I'm sorry. I know how awful it is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-8323740100855724872010-04-13T11:27:40.658-07:002010-04-13T11:27:40.658-07:00Although I am probably a little more "out the...Although I am probably a little more "out there" than you, you have described me as well. I am in counseling and on anti-depressants (not saying that you should be, just that it's one of the things helping me). All I can say is baby steps. You aren't going to figure this out in a day--but you can do 1 small thing each day --even if it's just figuring out what you really Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-68476749144850134682010-04-13T09:53:27.659-07:002010-04-13T09:53:27.659-07:00What an incredibly interesting post.
I do not ha...What an incredibly interesting post. <br /><br />I do not have any answers, but you are so interesting.<br /><br />I'm So Glad you really enjoy the activities with your kids. They are lucky for that.<br /><br />I look forward to coming back here for the comments, as they are already a sensitive conversation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-1817060558694130432010-04-13T09:26:55.770-07:002010-04-13T09:26:55.770-07:00I'm sorry you're feeling so lost. I can so...I'm sorry you're feeling so lost. I can sort of relate; but I'm super busy, work full time and have 2 kids and maintain a few close friendships and many non-close friendships. But I still feel lost and lonely and wonder who I am. I try to exercise, journal, foster connections with the people in my lives. Can you talk to a counselor, join a support group, get on an anti-depressant? YouAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-80319887828040286492010-04-12T19:06:25.838-07:002010-04-12T19:06:25.838-07:00I was there for a while. I went into counseling a...I was there for a while. I went into counseling and then got involved with some great people online. People loos at you funny when you have relationships with people online but these women mean the world to me. Maybe you can find a mammy and me or MOPS type of group? Take a class at the community college? I know it's hard, I'm sorry.Just Vegashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09851077598314983920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26063103.post-37047905734255988972010-04-12T18:06:26.646-07:002010-04-12T18:06:26.646-07:00First step is admitting you have a problem. If yo...First step is admitting you have a problem. If you want to start becoming you, just make it a gradual process. Start with something new here and there to figure it out. You can do it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com