Thursday, May 31, 2007

Dear Sister-In-Law...

Posted by Anonymous.


Dear Sister-in-Law,

I am not the best parent in the world, but I am better than you. How dare you yell at my child last night in your parents house because she brought a cookie downstairs. First, this is not your house. Second, cookies downstairs are allowed in grandma's house. Third, she's not your kid to yell at. Fourth, don't get out of it by saying that's your pet peeve. I was at your house last week and you know what I found? Candy wrappers by the guest bed and a moldy apple core in your bathroom. Hypocrite. And how dare you mock my child for using manners. IT'S WHAT NORMAL PEOPLE DO WHO WANT FRIENDS.

You want to know what my pet peeve is? That you tell your kids to shut up, you hit them, you slap them, you call them names. All you do is yell. You hit them when they hit their siblings and follow with a "DON'T HIT". You tell them "don't call your brother names, stupid." Instead of playing with them you ignore them and if they dare try to talk to you your response is "GO AWAY YOU'RE ANNOYING ME!"

You expect your kids to be so well behaved with this martial law you lay down. The big problem is that you are more immature than your five year old. Grow up and treat your kids with respect if you ever want them to do the same. You're kids are adorable and just want POSITIVE attention.

And another thing-a $4,000 washer and dryer? A $6,000 60" TV? A brand new car whenever you get sick of the old one? Your parents are making your house payment and these are your priorities? How about you spent $10 and get some pants for your kids? Why are they always in diapers and dirty disgusting t-shirts? I don't get you.

These are the things I want to say, but we are family, so I don't.

Thanks for listening.

-the one with the clean kid.

11 comments:

Liam's Mom - Gina said...

Agreed. She is a bad mother.

Anonymous said...

oh the horror-

THANK YOU for sharing!

mamalang said...

Isn't it amazing the things we want to say to our relatives and can't. Glad you had someplace to vent!

Redneck Mommy said...

How I've thought these things a time or two about a relative of mine. What I wouldn't give for the balls to finally be able to call them on their parenting, instead of listening to them carp on and on about mine.

My tongue is scarred for permanently biting it whenever I'm around said relative.

Too bad we couldn't lock them in a room together and let them go at it like two cats in a sack.

Best wishes.

ewe are here said...

Those poor kids.

And you're right. They're family. So don't alienate your SIL by saying anything because it's only the kids that will suffer if you don't get to see them anymore.

Candygirlflies said...

It may be true that "it takes a village to raise a child", but I say that it is only so IF... that village isn't full of ferocious, vile nitwits like your s-i-l.

You may be family, but in my opinion, you have every right (and a responsibility) to defend your child in a situation like this. The key is, though, that it has to be done in a calm, respectful manner. This is not easy in the heat of the moment... but perhaps you could try gently and firmly reminding this woman that YOU are your child's mother, and ask her to come to YOU with any behavioral issues she might have with your child in the future. This will avoid your child being targeted, embarassed, and frightened. If she does approach you in the future, all you have to say in response is something like, "Thank you. I'll deal with it." And then leave it at that. Don't allow yourself to be drawn into arguments about issues that are absolutely none of her business.

Good luck...

Anonymous said...

My SIL and my own sister are like that too & I understand about not being able to say anything.

Merinz said...

Just a thought, can you speak to her spouse about your concerns for their children? Other than that - a parenting course for the next Christmas present!

Anonymous said...

I am 'blessed' with six sisters in law. We have all had children of similar ages and various parenting styles.

Now all are grown up and the SIL who 'knew it all' and wasn't afraid to tell the rest of us, who at times criticised us and our children, is the one who has had the most trouble with her own children especially during their teenage years.

liv said...

Aaack! In-laws! I'm so glad that I don't have any anymore!

painted maypole said...

maybe this is over the top, but it seems to me this mother is emotionally abusing and neglecting her kids? If she is, please take care of them by calling child protective services. Don't let her potentional anger at you keep you from keeping them safe.