Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Is It Wrong...?

Posted by Anonymous.

Is it wrong that I have, on very bad days, on sick days, on tired days, TRIED to get my child hooked on television?

Is it wrong that I have, on a very few occasions, let her eat onion rings dipped in ketchup?

Is it wrong that I sometimes let a wet diaper diaper go a bit longer than it should before changing?

Is it wrong that I just don't feel like going to the park some days? MOST days?

Is it wrong that I am sometimes a really, really lazy mom?

Am I a bad mom?


Smiling Mom said...

No. You are not.

Did I write this post?? :-)

plumm said...

It is absolutely impossible (and totally creepy) to be perfect 100% of the time. Don't beat yourself for being human...we all need to do things the easier way from time to time. When you have to choose between a TV show and losing it, a little TV's ok. You obviously know the 'big picture' values that you are important to you and your family, otherwise you wouldn't even have been concerned about these few things.

Mrs. Chicken said...

If you are a bad mom, then someone better call CPS on me.

Ease up on yourself. I hate the park, but we go anyway. And I bet you go, too, most days.

No one is perfect, especially mothers. Love your kid? That's good enough.

ps - my daughter's main food group is fried carbs.

motherbumper said...

Um when did I write this post? The fact that you care to question it, means you are a great mom. It's the people who don't think about it that are scary.

flutter said...

so are you asking if it's bad that you are human? Yeah, no, not so much.

Awesome Mom said...

Nope! I got so freaking tired of the park that I just couldn't take it and had to stop going for a few weeks. I am so glad that winter is coming and that I have a real excuse to not go to the park.

MamaMichelsBabies said...

I'm with Awesome Mom and giving thanks that it's pretty much to cold now to go to the park... I tell myself it's because my backyard has less germs, but really.. I hate that place.

I could have written this post, I think most Mama's could. The fact that you question it is testament to your parenting. And it's not half bad from this angle.

nell said...

Definitely not wrong, not even bad, not even unusual. It's ok, this is life, it's your child's life, sure, but it's your life too, so take my advice (which I try really hard to follow myself) and cut yourself some slack. I'm sure you're a good mom.

Jaelithe said...

Short answer: No.

(What else ARE we supposed to do to distract our kids when we are terribly sick and there is no one else available to watch the children? I have a theory that before television, really sick moms who had no one to help must have tied their kids to a post or something.)

b*babbler said...

Nope. Judging from the way the Peanut's head whips around at the sound of the PBS lady's voice, I've been on this boat too.

pkzcass said...

As long as most of the time you are attending to your child's basic needs and he/she feels loved and taken care of, then you aren't wrong at all. I was just thinking how much I loathed the park when they were little. They (two boys) had tons of energy to burn ALL THE TIME and I can't tell you how many days I sat at the playground in 35 degree weather cursing the inventor of the slide. I will readily admit that I dislike all children but my own.

On the flip side, I do know a really, really lazy mom who spends way too much time either sleeping or on the computer. As a result, her kids are whiny, undisciplined, annoying girls (9 and 12). SHE's wrong.

Give yourself a break. You don't sound any different than the rest of us.

Mardougrrl said...

If you are, well..I don't even want to think about it LOL.

It's been raining for practically a solid week here. My inventions have run out. If Dora wants to take over, who am I to say her nay?

Give yourself a break.

Dating Trooper - Dating is Warfare said...

Two words:
Britney Spears.

You are just fine.

Becky said...

Nope. I could have written this post.

And most days I don't consider myself to be a bad mother.

The City Gal said...

I am not a mother, but I have always appreciated how hard it is to be a mom!

You certainly don't sound like a bad mom, but only a tired mom.

Take care of yourself. Make sure you are not depressed. Perhaps ask your partner to be engaged more.

A happy mom means a better mom

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Angela said...

I think all moms have these days

Stimey said...

You have just described every single one of my days.

Toni said...

No, you are not a bad mother. I, too, agree with you 110% and relate to your feelings 5 days of 7.

mamadaisy said...

you are totally fine and completely normal! my two year old is addicted to spongebob. (don't you feel better now?)

Liam's Mom - Gina said...

You are exactly like me and I think I am good mom... so you are normal and wonderful and do what you can! What more can we do?

witchypoo said...

The ketchup is wrong if your child is allergic to it.
It would be wrong to allow said child to dip onion rings in bourbon.
It sounds like you may be a tad depressed. Is that wrong? No. But you can have some strategies to move through it, rather than get stuck in it. It's an insidious condition, rampant among young moms. Some of it comes from hormone fluctuation, some from not having adult company for long stretches of time.