Saturday, April 14, 2007

Not Your Everyday Family Dilemma

Posted by Anonymous.


Just now, when I was on the phone with my little sister, she told me that her boyfriend left to go rob a nearby convenience store -- he says he needs the money to pay bills. WTF? He has a pretty darn good job in the billing department of the largest hospital in our state. Has he not heard of a budget?

What happens to my little sister and her kids when this guy gets caught & arrested? Should I tell someone? Does knowing and not telling make me an accessory?

13 comments:

Laural Dawn said...

Wow. That is a dilemma.
If I were in your shoes and my sister told me that I would most definitely not tell the authorities. I say that because I think your loyalty to your sister outweighs your loyalty to a someone who was robbed.
I don't think everyone would agree with me - and my response has nothing to do with the law.
That's me, as a sister, saying what I would do if it were my sister.
But I would also step in and try to help in some way. Like, help budget or something.

Anonymous said...

The chargeable accessory would be your sister. You could be an accessory after the fact, although it's a stretch. But your sister could very easily be charged. And she should be, too.

Contact the authorities. Look up the local Crimestoppers number and leave an anonymous tip.

Think of the poor hard-working guy (or 9th month pregnant clerk) who will be put through this ordeal. And think of your sister when her "boyfriend" is shot by the next clerk he tries to rip off.

Like it or not, now you know. And as the only one with an ounce of conscience in that family, it's your job to do the right thing. Go. Call. Now. But go ahead and keep it your own little secret since you don't want to ruin the relationship with your sister.

laura said...

But what if someone gets seriously hurt in the robbery? Like if he shoots someone? I'd feel very guilty if that happened and I didn't tell the authorities. By now the robbery has probably already happened, I just hope that you all are able to work this out.

m said...

Tell the authorities and be there for your sister. In the wise words of Dan Savage, she's got DTMFA.

Kyla said...

Ugh. Awful situation. I think I'd have to call someone. If I didn't and someone was hurt during the robbery? I couldn't deal with that. But I'd do it anonymously so your sister didn't find out.

flutter said...

Your sister can be charged, and by extension you could be called to testify should he be caught. Call the police and get your sister to your house or a shelter and away from this man.

Liam's Mom - Gina said...

What flutter said...

Anonymous said...

I agree with flutter, too. I think you need to leave an anonymous tip. What if he kills someone or gets killed himself? Maybe not this time, but the next.

Yes, your sister and probably you could get into trouble. You're worried about her kids now, but what happens if the cops arrest the boyfriend, find out she knew, arrest her, and take her kids?

DDM said...

I have been on the receiving end of the threats, the pointed gun, and been poked in the back with a butcher knife while being robbed. Twice in ten years, in my past life. It changed everything for me. The college degree I worked so hard for? I threw it away because of the terror of being robbed at my job caused. I'm the mother of a special needs child. I'm a wife. I'm someone's daughter. I'm a HUMAN BEING. No one deserves to be put through that kind of disconcerting, life altering event.
I agree that you should leave an anonymous tip with the police. Part of why I couldn't go back to my job, is that the men who robbed me were not caught. I could never trust another person that walked through the door. Please don't let that happen to the person who your sister's boyfriend is robbing or has robbed.

ewe are here said...

Call the police. You can even do it anonymously. Why? Because if someone got hurt, or even died, I wouldn't be able live with myself.

And this is not a guy you want around your sister and her kids. Ever. She needs help and support to get out.

Nael C. Robes said...

I could be wrong about this, but I think there might be a drug problem going on somewhere in that family. Get your sister out if at all possible. Don't worry about that particular event for now, just get her and the kids out. If he was serious, those type of things don't occur one time.

Anonymous said...

Update on this post: the boyfriend did not, in fact, rob the convenience store--it was too crowded, but to even consider it... I'm still astonished.

Alpha DogMa said...

Well, that's good news...I suppose.
I still think you should heed the advice offered above and help get your sister out of that relationship. Because this guy is a ticking time bomb.