Posted by Anonymous
Last summer my 8 year old son was molested by his 12 year old adopted cousin. Thankfully we found out about it right away and we were able to have good discussions with our son... We have not allowed ANY contact from the boy who molested our son. However, now we are getting pressure from the both the parents of the molester, and the grandparents to "get over it", "move on" and let the boys get together again... for the sake of "family harmony".
I just don't know how that would effect my son.
Would seeing the boy who molested him hurt him more emotionally? (We would NEVER let him play alone with him)
Or would it be good?
If we did start seeing them again, I do worry about safety. The molesters parents are very laid back... we have FOUR sons to try to keep safe.
For me, as a mother, the easy answer is never to see this boy who caused so much pain again.
But is that what's best?
Thanks for listening, any advice is more than welcome.