Wednesday, December 02, 2009

My Turn To Be Angry

Posted by Anonymous.

Not so dear common law husband,

You screwed up and now you are trying to be angry with me? ME? Because I didn't nag you into doing the correct thing? Seriously? SERIOUSLY? I am dealing with you being mad now and then later when your busy body family finds out what you have done (or not done) I will once again listen to a lecture. Because regardless of what happens it is always my fault.
When I finally leave you in a couple weeks (as I have secretly wanted to do for almost our whole relationship), this is the number 1 reason why. It's not because of your temper (which I hate) or your selfishness or even that you try to prevent me from having friends or a life. It is because you need to be accountable for yourself. As your girlfriend, partner, wife it is not up to me to micromanage your life and decisions.



Anonymous said...

Good for you! Finding the strength and courage to leave someone like that is always the hardest part!

Anonymous said...

Wow, you can just walk away. I don't mean to belittle your pain or situation but,
A common law husband, no messy divorce, no kids, Just pack up and leave.
You're my freakin hero.

Kellee said...

Wow... good for you! You've made your decision, I'm glad you have an escape route. Best of luck!

Anonymous said...

I will also toss a big Good For You in your direction. Life is short, friend,so don't waste a minute feeling guilty for wanting to enjoy yours.
We can be patient, loving, caring, understanding but we CAN NOT "fix" other people.
Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for wanting to be healthy and happy.

Anonymous said...

In my opinion, more people need to do this. I mean... why the hell do people stay together when they're miserable together?

That's a question I will never understand! Why? If a dude ... or chick ... just isn't what you want in a partner, why do you stay? *sigh*

We have to love ourselves enough to stick up for ourselves & what we want & need in a partner. It's nobody's fault... it's just that the two elements won't mix... they stay separated even in the same vial. You can't change it... you can't make it any different... so just move along so that you both can find some semblance of happiness while you still have some life on earth left.

Be peaceful about it... it's nobody's fault. It simply is what it is.

Good luck~ Andrea