Monday, April 06, 2009

Bandit

Posted by Anonymous.

So a couple weeks our house was broken in to and all the bandit took was our laptop. First of all I felt violated that someone had come in to our home and second I was pissed because it had all of our photos on it. Including some naughty photos of me that were meant for my husband when he is away on business trips.

Well after a month of having it missing it miraculously reappeared on our doorstep. So much porn had been look at and pulled up on the internet that it made the hard drive slow and now we get a pop up every 5 minutes. Not to mention that my private photos had been used as the "wallpaper". So if you can imagine I felt sick about this. Someone in my neighborhood (most likely a teenager) has seen and used those pics for his own pleasure. Gross!

Well I told my mom thinking she might be sympathetic and outraged as I was. Not that I expected her to be able to do anything about it but I would have liked to had someone other than my husband worry with me. But what did she do? she laughed! Like I had just told the funniest joke in the world! What the fuck! "Why are you laughing?" I asked? "Well you shouldn't have taken those pictures for yourself" She continued laughing. "Um don't laugh, its not even a little bit funny! I shouldn't have told you" I said. I hung up.

Am I the only one in the world that saw the seriousness of this situation? Fuck! I'm pissed off at the little bugger that took my computer and violated me and my personal space.

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

Honestly? It's embarrassing, but looking at you won't actually hurt you so you might as well laugh at it. If you stop taking yourself as seriously you have to admit, it is pretty funny. Mortifying, but I don't see what wallowing in it buys you except really shitty feelings.

Sorry that happened to you!

Anonymous said...

I was coerced into taking pics for an ex boyfriend and now I worry someday they'll surface somewhere...They are not very bad, but they are bad enough...
So I understand why you are upset. And I'll never ever take pics like that again.

Anonymous said...

Oh, I'm so sorry. Our car was stolen back in December, right out of our driveway, driven around for a few hours, then crashed into a fence. They took our DVD player and our GPS, which I didn't really care that much about, but when we went to go pick the car up at the impound lot, the damn thing smelled like sweaty Dorito-eating teenager and pot smoke. I would have sold the goddamn car to the first person who offered me cash for it, but we really couldn't afford a car payment at that point. I felt so totally violated.

It's no comparison to how violated you must feel, of course. But, I've been there.

Anonymous said...

I was never into taking pictures of myself to please a man. This is one of the reasons why.

Anonymous said...

I have taken private photos for my husband but they are kept on a CD away from the computer. I would have put the photo's on a jump drive or a CD so that he could look at them and the photo's wouldn't be on our hard drive.

Sorry to say, but it sucks!

Anonymous said...

I do feel bad for you - who knows who he showed those pics to!

Anonymous said...

Never understood why women take these silly pictures. Do you honestly think your husband is going to forget how you look undressed or dressed for that matter, when he is away on business trips? Are you worried about him being away and that's why you took them? Anyways...there's nothing you can do about it now so no need to keep stressing. At least they returned your computer.

bec said...

Wow - I feel compelled to post and add a comment b/c a few too many others are being, what I perceive to be, unnecessarily harsh on here.

Dear anon - yes, you were violated and I am sorry for it. Not only was your personal space violated, but something private between two people was taken away and used by someone else.

There is nothing wrong with what you did, even if some others are implying that you did something "silly" or are somehow wrong for taking those pics and that they would never do something like that.

We believe that what we do in the privacy of our homes is private and that was taken away from you. That's a horrible feeling and you are entitled to be upset about it.

Maybe a year from now or ten years from now you will find this less stressful - doesn't matter... it is stressful now and for that I am sorry for you.

Take your laptop to a computer expert who can find out where the person was logged in at. It is possible that the ip address they used while downloading porn can be traced back to a home network. Especially since it was likely someone (aka a dumb teenager) in the area, it's worth a shot -- they may have left evidence behind.

Sorry again to hear about your bad luck. :( Hang in there... Yuck is right!

courtney said...

Wow, all the hostility about taking naughty photos! I would feel totally violated and I understand how awful you feel about it. It's scary not knowing what the thief has since done with the files - were they emailed to himself/herself and then sent on? Put on the internet? You just don't know and that's frightening.

Also? You're in a marriage and it was your personal computer - I don't understand why people are all hating on the pictures. Sheesh.

Anonymous said...

I suppose when I was your age I would have reacted the same way as you. Today I react like your mother, sorry, but I have to laugh. Take it easy, clean your computer or have it cleaned and in a few years you also will laugh about it. It really is not worthwhile that you are so upset.

Anonymous said...

I would be reacting the same way as you. I would be upset. I would be MORE upset though, not because some neighborhood teen saw me naked, but because he could of emailed those pics to all of his friends. I would be more worried about my naked picture ending up on some MySpace page or something.

Get your computer to an expert who may be able to figure out the ip address. Also, it seems weird to me that someone would take JUST your laptop, and then return it too. Very odd. I mean, if you're going to break in, why not take some other stuff as well?

Stacy said...

I would feel violated too. Because someone was in my house and because of the pictures. I dont think there is anything wrong with taking the pics.

I'm sorry it happened to you and I hope you can find out who did it. I would be willing to bet it was someone you know.

Anonymous said...

Naughty pictures are fun! My significant other and I exchange dirty emails/texts/pictures when apart because it keeps us feeling sexy and exiciting. No shame there.

I'm sorry they got stolen and used. That is a violation. I would laugh only because that is how I handle most situations. It's my coping mechanism, maybe it's your mother's too?


Look at the bright side: you got your laptop back. So what if some immature idiot saw naked pictures of you. Hold your head high.

Anonymous said...

I agree - not a thing wrong with sensual/sexy pictures of yourself. Men are really visual and get a kick out of these things. It's a fun, sexy, harmless way to tell your husband you're thinking of him. Sheesh. Lighten up previous commenters!

Anonymous said...

God, I am so sorry for you. That's a terrible thing to happen. And the 'giving back' the laptop was just plain... well, it seems like some kind of sick joke.

Anonymous said...

I'm seriously puzzled by the lack of sympathy from certain previous commenters. Huh.

I see nothing wrong with what you did for your husband (and I'm sure he appreciates it). I would be horrified if someone saw pictures of me like that, and really angry if the person I went to for comfort laughed at my pain.

Lottifish said...

I'd be pissed too. Your Mom is just probably coming from an era where private pictures were just not something acceptable.

Anonymous said...

I've taken naughty photos too. My husband enjoys them!

And I'd feel very violated as well if I knew someone in my community whom I'd probably come into contact with had seen them.

But, I think that my mom would also react by laughing. The big picture is that your computer's back, your (other) photos are still in tact. Thank goodness!

I assume in years from now, when the violation isn't so fresh, you'll be able to laugh about the situation as well.

But for now, I'm so sorry for your horrible situation.

Anonymous said...

My house was broken into a few years ago, and although they stole more than just a laptop, they laid in my bed and took every single pair of my dirty underwear out of the laundry and laid them out on my bed neatly, letting me know they had touched them. It was so much worse than having my things stolen. I felt violated. I understand how OP feels, what is private is private.